Post # 1
I’m currently a new graduate student, and I have been asked if I’m going “home” for Thanksgiving or “home” for Christmas about a thousand times now. The first time I thought they made a mistake and meant to ask if I was “staying home.” I was asked this question often as an undergrad, too, but it made sense to me then as I went to a school where almost everyone lived in dorm rooms paid for by their parents.
Personally, I stopped thinking of my parents’ house as my home when I moved out as a 15-year old. I feel that the state I grew up in and the state I went to undergrad in are both “mine,” but only slightly more so than I feel I am a part of my new state.
I’m wondering, what did it take for the people on this board? When you moved out? When you went from renting to owning your own home? Getting married? Having your first child? How many of you still think of home as somewhere other than where you live?
Post # 3
@beeks: For me it was moving in with my Fiance. It was the first time in my life that I left their house knowing I would never live there again. All other times (like college) I knew I’d be back for summer breaks and things like that.
Post # 4
When I set up house with SO. That is my home now, My mom’s house will always “feel” like a home to me. Not just a house. But MY home is with SO.
Does that make any sense?
Post # 5
I kinda still think of mum’s place as home even though I have lived out of home for a few years. My OH gets a little annoyed when I refer to mum’s ace as home as he says that our place together should be what I consider my home. I think of them both as my home…
Post # 6
I’ve lived in an apartment with my fiance in a different city from my parents for over 2 years now. Prior to that, I lived in a dorm room at school. I still say “home” when talking about my mom and dad’s.
I don’t think mom and dad’s will really stop being “home” until my fiance and I actually own our own home, which is still some ways off (we live in Vancouver after all, and houses are crazy expensive here).
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I’ve lived with Fiance for a year and a half now and I still refer to my parents’ house as home (although FI’s and my house is “home” too)! I don’t think I’ll ever stop thinking of it as my home (unless my parents move at least).
Post # 8
Definitely when I moved in with my Fiance, although it also sort of happened when my parents sold their house.
Post # 9
Hmm… Not since I was 18ish. My Darling Husband sometimes refers to us visiting his parents as “going home,” and it strikes me as odd, because his home is with me, but I’m not hurt by it.
Post # 10
@HelleCat: Thats totally how I feel. My parents’ house will always feel like home.
Post # 11
I moved in with SO in June after college graduation and I feel like our apartment is my home for the fist time since I moved out for college. As they say home is where the heart is and my heart finally lives with me.
Post # 12
About 6 months after I permanently moved out into my own place.
Post # 13
Honestly I think only in the last year have I started to consider my house home instead of my parents even though I moved out 3 years ago. The house my parents live in I have actually never lived in (they move a lot and are currently 3 hours away), but it is more the emotional side of not feeling like I have to worry about what my parents think anymore. Being an only child I am quite attached to my parents but it gets easier every day and I am sure one I have my own family it will be even easier.
Post # 14
I guess I stopped about halfway through college, when I realized I was never going to live there again, not even during the summer. The break was definitely complete after the wedding.
Someday, when Darling Husband and I have settled down somewhere, that will be home. Right now I’m just a roamer.
Post # 15
I still call my parents’ house my home. I think the first time I referred to living in Philly as home was a few years ago… I am very attached to New Hampshire, okay??
I do also think of my house as home, though, just not in the same way. Like, I’m going home for Christmas. I am home right now. I am not in the house where I will be having Christmas at the moment. =)
Post # 16
I moved in with my fiance 5 months ago but still catch myself say I’m “going home” when referring to going to my parents house. It’s a hard thing to switch after living there for 24 years! Just like it was a little hard to switch from saying boyfriend to fiance after 7+ years but I’m fully committed to the latter on that one now 😛