(Closed) When did you stop thinking of your parents' house as "home?"

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I moved out at 18 to go to college in another and ended up just staying there for almost 9 years and then I moved back and lived in the basement for about 2 years, and although my stuff was there and I slept there it was never the “home” feeling I had as a teen.

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

Growing up I was an orphan living with my grandmother. She always made it very clear that her house was not MY home and reinforced that by never letting me have my own furniture or even a door to my room. That changed when I moved out (desperately after I graduated highschool) but had to move back in when I was kicked out of where I was living (I was then allowed to bring my furniture in AND allowed to have a door!). I was able to move out again around 6 months later.

From then on I moved constantly with my then Fiance, then turn husband… then just me after I got divorced. But without fail, I would move on average once a year. Sometimes twice a year. And I never felt like anywhere was home.

In late 2010 I bought a house and I’m starting to feel like it might be home. My current Boyfriend or Best Friend (soon to be FI) wants to eventually move somewhere else, so my heart is having trouble attaching to it entirely and I actually feel a bit heart broken. But for now, it holds the title of “home” and has been the closest to home I’ve ever had.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

NEVER! LOL

I have lived away from home for over 8 years, currently live with fiance and I still refer to my childhood house as home.  I think after we have kids and establish ourselves as a family then I will call my current location home.

Post # 50
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Exactly what @HelleCat: said!

I’ve owned my own home with Darling Husband for over three years now and my parents house still feels like home to me. But, of course so does my home. I just have two homes! : )

Post # 51
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Bumble bee

Pretty much as soon as I moved out and set up my own home. That was when I was 19 (9 years ago).

They have since moved so their new house definitely does not feel like home to me.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Um…. never?  I lived there until I got married, except for a few years in college.  If my parents ever move out, I probably will stop thinking of it as home.

Post # 53
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I still refer to my parents’ house as ‘home’ and it still feels like my home. My Fiance and I still go ‘home’ when we’re not at school though so that probably has something to do with it. I do feel like my condo with my Fiance is home though too.. I think when we settle down in our hometown our place will feel more like ‘home’ because it will be more permanent.

Post # 54
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My parent’s house is still home and probably always will be even though FH and I live together in our own home. They are both my homes, both have different places in my heart. 

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

When I moved out when I was 17.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@beeks:  When I was 18 and moved out for good.

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When they moved from the house that I grew up in. I’m still comfortable in the new house but it will never be “home” to me. “Home” is where I’ve lived with my husband for the last 6 years.

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

It happened in grad school for me. I do remember the shift from “home” to “parents’ house.” 

I hated people referring to their parents’ house as home in grad school. It seemed like calling grad school a continuation of college. For some, I guess it is. For me, it was a total change in lifestyle.

 

My mother also redecorated when we all were gone, which I think was a good thing. The kid stuff is gone. It’s my parents’ house again. 🙂

Post # 59
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I bought my folks house from them, so it was no longer home the day I sold it. 

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My parents moved to another state the same week I moved off to college.  So…right about then.

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