Post # 31
We didn’t outright tell anyone we were going to ttc after the wedding. Like another bee said, it’s like your advertising your unprotected sex life lol.
We did surprise my sister though when we told her we were pregnant since I hadn’t told her we were even trying.
Post # 32
I think this depends on how close you are with those you are considering telling.
We’re not TTC until next year, but I’m sure we won’t be super open about it. My D H and his ex-wife had many complications and attempts that caused a lot of heartache, so I am okay with keeping it tight-lipped on specifics until we actually are pregnant and it sticks.
I have shared general timelines (like saying “next year”) with my closest friends. I know they are curious and we share everything together. Once the time comes, I may share more with my absolute best friend, but that’s only because she has gone through a difficult time getting pregnant (she is due in Oct!) and she may be a good resource and sounding board.
Post # 33
We’re not TTC yet, but I will definitely tell my best friend (and maybe other close girl friends who might also be TTC around that time), but absolutely NO family! I just know they would get over-excited and analyze everything I do in an annoying way, haha. My mom is a huge blabber-mouth and I know it wouldn’t be a secret for long. Plus, my mom and sister both got pregnant right away and had zero issues, so I fear they would make comments if it took us longer.
We do, however, plan on telling our parents pretty early on once I actually get pregnant (before 12 weeks) for the support.
Post # 34
I feel like we’ve told so many people in comparison! Three girlfriends, my parents and my business partners (who, in fairness, need to know to be able to project how it’s going to impact our firm). We’ve been pretty vague in terms of timelines though with everyone except two friends who want to start trying around the same time.
I’m glad to have some people to go through this with in person, but am also very glad to have found this board! It seems like a very supportive community.
Post # 35
Your sex life and reproductive status is nobody’s business until you make it their business by telling them. If questioning, speculation and opining will piss you off, keep it to yourself.
ETA: we didn’t tell anyone, and were able to keep questions at arm’s length. Other friends told everyone and were really frustrated with all of the nosey nancy’s.
Post # 36
We haven’t started TTC yet (we will in a few months) but we have told a few friends that we’re going to be trying in the fall! Only the very closest friends though. My SIL put it this way, “if I can feel comfortable telling you bad news, like about a miscarriage, I’ll feel comfortable telling you that we’ve started TTC!”
Post # 37
When we were trying our immediate family and our friends group all knew.
Most of our close friends already had kids or were also trying, it didn’t seem like a big deal at all for them to know.
It took us 14 months to fall pregnant and I was fine with people knowing that.
We also told our immediate family and closest friends that we were pregnant basically as soon as we found out. We figured we would tell them if we miscarried so didn’t want to wait to share our joy.
I know pretty much when all my close friends are planning on trying for kids, just seems like something we are all open about with one another.