Post # 1
We are obviously hoping for a BFP this month, and it got me to thinking – if we did, would we tell our families on Christmas Eve & Christmas? My SIL told the ILs around 5 weeks, her point was that she’d want their support during a miscarriage anyway.
When did you tell family and/or close friends?
Post # 3
I’m wanting to tell everyone on Christmas if I get my BFP when I test in 2 days if I don’t start by then but he wants to wait until we know if it will be a boy or girl before telling them. I don’t think I can wait that long! lol. With our last one we told everyone about a week after we found out.
Post # 4
We told our family and close friends right away – same reason, if I miscarried I would want their support. We told the rest of the world at 12 weeks though.
Post # 5
We will be telling our family Xmas Eve and I’ll be about 7 weeks along at that point. I would have liked to wait until after week 8 when I have my first GYN appointment, but I would rather tell them now than have them guess it on their own when I turn down the wine!
Post # 6
We told our immediate family (parents & siblings) right away, like I got my bfp and drove right over to my moms to show her! Then I called my 2 best friends. I knew that IF something did go wrong I’d want their support.
We told the rest of our friends at 9 weeks b/c we see them all a couple times a week & I couldn’t hide it any longer. lol
Post # 7
We told DH’s family right away. I won’t be telling my family until after Christmas, I’ll be 17 weeks pregnant. I love my family, but my parents tend to get very…. dramatic about news like this, and I’m just not in the mood to have a stressful Christmas. This was a hard enough year without added anxiety.
Post # 8
I waited till after my 1st ultra sound and 2 weeks after @ 10 weeks. I wanted to make sure the baby stuck.
I was preg and we told every onel ike right away. and saddly lost the baby. I hated telling everyone we lost the baby.
Post # 9
I told my mom and BFF SIL the day we found out. We’re probably going to tell his family on Christmas, and the rest of my family probably after the first trimester.
Post # 10
We’re currently TTC, but I want to wait until 12+ weeks to tell anyone when it happens. I’m paranoid something will go wrong and don’t want to have to “take it back”.
Post # 11
We told our family around 9 weeks. We waited until we had our first ultrasound at 8 weeks and saw the heartbeat for the first time. After hearing the heartbeat your chance of miscarriage drops to something like 3%. It drops again to about 1% after you finish your first trimester.
We were originally going to wait until 12 weeks to tell our families, but we were going to see my elderly grandma when I was 10 weeks pregnant, and we wanted to tell her in person.
Post # 12
i found out rather early–3 weeks 4 days, and we told our parents at 6 weeks. it was soooo hard to wait that long!!!! after our first two ultrasounds, we told the rest of the world, which was around 10 weeks.
Edit: I could not imagine coping with the pain of a miscarriage without the support of my family.
Post # 13
We told our parents and my sister about 5 days after my BFP, I was a little over 4 weeks. We didn’t tell grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins until I was about 8 weeks or so. I would have wanted my family’s support if I had a miscarriage, so we were comfortable with telling them that early (same for close friends, as well).
Post # 14
@abbyful: Same here, if and when we decide to TTC and get a BFP, I’ll wait at least 12-13+ weeks. I don’t need the emotional roller coaster of having to tell my family or his that a baby isn’t coming after all or dealing with unwanted comments about my fertility in relation to theirs. Plus, I have a bigger risk of miscarriage. 🙁
Post # 15
We told my parents at 11 and 12 weeks. The rest of the family at 14 weeks.
Post # 16
thanks for the input! if we don’t get a bfp this cycle, it’ll be easier partly, because we won’t see the family again until late march. i want to tell them in person so that’d work out. otherwise, we see them Christmas, which is early but still so fun. ah! I guess I’ll wait and see 🙂