(Closed) When Did You Tell Your Parents?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: As soon as it was confirmed
    5-7 weeks : (15 votes)
    48 %
    After the first dcotor appoinment : (8 votes)
    26 %
    After the first trimester : (7 votes)
    23 %
    After the second trimester : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 16
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    You’re not the only one, shanbp!  We didn’t tell till our 12wk ultrasound. Neither of  us wanted to deal with “untelling” if we had to. Just our personal perference.

    Post # 17
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    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I am probably unique in this but I think the idea of waiting makes the first trimester and a potential miscarriage that much more isolating. If something does go wrong, wouldn’t you want your parents supporting you through it?

    Post # 18
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    143 posts
    Blushing bee

    We want to tell our parents now (5 weeks) but we live overseas and will be coming home to visit in August (I’ll be 12 weeks then) and we’d love nothing more than to get the chance to tell our family in person since they won’t be with us in person for ANY other part of this pregnancy…maybe not even the birth.  No showers, no dr appointments, no gender reveal, nothing.  The ability to tell them in person seems priceless to me but waiting that long seems like torture at this point.  I’m not sure if I’ll be able to do it! =0 

    Post # 19
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    930 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I am in week 6 right now, and we would LOVE to wait to tell DH’s parents until week 20 if we could! Just because his mother will be ecstatic and it would be awesome to tell her on her birthday. Even Darling Husband who gets excited about NOTHING said it would be good to get her a Happy Birthday Grandma! card. This will be her first grandchild and she has the baby rabies in a pretty huge way.

    We probably wont be able to hide it that long, since we live in the same town and see each other often. But if I could hide it that long we would love that. The earliest we will tell is 12 weeks.

    Post # 20
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    11744 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    RoseyBee:  told my inlaws at 8 weeks because we were on vacation with them and I was super sick. Told my parents at 11 weeks because it was when we saw them in person (they live 500 miles away). I mostly like to wait to tell so they don’t blab to anyone else! 

    Post # 21
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    32 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We told my parents the day after we found out and we told his parents a few days later. We figured that if anything were to happen that we would want the support of our immediate family. We’ve also told some close friends but are waiting to announce to the world until after 12 weeks.

    Post # 22
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    2473 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    julesbeeb:  well for me its not that I would mind THEM knowing…its just that I know them well enough that basically telling them would be in fact announcing it to the public lol… I love my mother but she is that person who is always like “dont tell anyone or they will KILL ME……BUT guess what”. Being a grandma is something shes been yearning for and she will basically shout it from the rooftop….which is good…when the time is right. I dont think its fair to tell one set of parents and not the other so both will be kept out of the loop! Father-In-Law is a bit of gossip as well.

    and on top of that my parents dont live here….DH’s does and well…. his family is form europe and there are some things that get lost in translation with Father-In-Law…he is NOT senstive to others feelings and would basically end up making a comment to the effect of “well whats wrong with you? what did you do?”

    Post # 23
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    2473 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    midwestgirl80:  totally….I’ve had a few gf’s have to untell people as well because they told too early and it was so heartbreaking.

    Post # 24
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    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’ll be 14 weeks when we tell both sides of the family. I wanted to wait until it was safe to tell people(had a previous MC), and we won’t see the families until I’m that far along. 

    Post # 25
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    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We told the inlaws at 10 weeks because they were going to their winter home for a couple of months and wanted to tell them before they left.  We told my parents the next week.  I would have waited to tell anyone until 12 weeks if the inlaws hadn’t been leaving.  I would not want either set of parents to know about a miscarriage.

    Post # 26
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

     

    julesbeeb:  This is the most common reaction I get when I say we prefer to wait till the 12wk u/s. I don’t buy that arugement though – it implies that we would not be able to tell anyone we had miscarriage if we hadn’t already told them we were pregnant. I’m pretty sure if I called my mom or sister to tell them I had a miscarriage they wouldn’t say “sorry, can’t support you through this since you never told me in the first place!”.

     

    We we didn’t find it isolating at all – we kind of loved having “our little secret” to ourselves for a few months!

     

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