(Closed) When did you throw your Bachelorette Party? Who hosts it?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Well, I think traditionally the MOH/BMs host the bachelorette party, and they all pitch in to help pay for it (and pay for the bride’s portion).  They are usually a few days to a couple weeks prior to the wedding.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is planning mine and as far as I know, it will be the weekend before our wedding.  I don’t really know what we’re doing yet though, lol.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I did not have a formal bachelorette party. Instead, my two, local bridemaids (one was one of my matrons of honor) came to my house, brought pizza, and hung out with me while I packed for my honeymoon.

My understanding of bachelorette parties is that they are planned, orchestrated, and paid for by friends of the bride, with the bride’s interests in mind.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My Maid/Matron of Honor was going to plan and host but we just ran out of time and now that Fiance isn’t having his either, we just scrapped the whole idea!  I’ve had 2 showers – that’s plenty of parties for me! 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had my bachelorette party a week before the wedding. No particular reason, it was just a day that worked best for everybody. We had it at Glen Ivy Hot Springs Spa. My sister (MOH) sent out the invitations and everybody paid their own way. They each split the cost to pay for me (The bride) and surprised me with a swedish massage. We had fun drinking pool side, played in mud and laughed at each other as we rubbed green stuff all over ourselves.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@futurepilotswife_:  Well, I live out of state from the wedding (where my Maid/Matron of Honor and most of my family live) so she just asked me when I was going to come into town for the wedding and then asked me when was a good time.  We both thought that Saturday was good (since ppl have to work) and she asked me what I wanted to do.  All I told her was that I like the idea of going out to dinner and maybe hitting up a fun dueling piano bar (I just want to hang out, have some drinks and just generally have a good time).  My Maid/Matron of Honor is also pregnant so while I do enjoy the club atmosphere every once in a while, I want her to have fun too, so I scrapped that.  A friend of mine (not a BM) knows that my Maid/Matron of Honor is pregnant and told me to pass along her contact info so that she may help if needed.

I think if you’ve already opened up the discussion with your BMs, let them roll with it.  As long as they know what your thoughts are and everything is within reason (in terms of timing, cost, etc.), you should be fine!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@futurepilotswife_:  I would leave it up to them, since this should be something that they initiate rather than something that the bride arranges for herself. 

However, I will add that, since these types of events often encompass a wide range of activities (some of which may be questionable or even very unwelcome for some individuals), if there are activities in which you definitely would not want to participate, I definitely would encourage you to ensure that your closest friends are aware of these considerations.

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