(Closed) When did you two discuss th E word? NOT Engagement

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
8036 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

First date. But we knew each other for a couple years beforehand.

Post # 4
2267 posts
Buzzing bee

@Imhishesmine:  We discussed it before he was “FI.” We discussed it way before then..

Post # 5
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We didn’t. We just knew we were (first date). 


Post # 6
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Imhishesmine:  First date.  One of the reasons we clicked was because of our firm belief that when you’re dating a person, you are only dating that person.  That shared belief was what helped us through our first year together which was long-distance dating.

Post # 7
634 posts
Busy bee

I’ve never been in a relationship where it was discussed. Now, granted, past relationships had been with people that I was friends with beforehand, so I already knew they plain and simple weren’t dating someone, so I never really learned how to organically introduce that question into things. Now my man was more of a meet out in public, chat, have fun, give phone number, go on dates thing, and it wasn’t until we were more than a year into our relatiohsip that he mentioned that he had met another person that same night, gone on a few dates, then broke it off when he realized he and I had a connection. I’m so used to being a one man kind of lady, it didn’t even occur to me that he would have dated someone else at the same time. 

Post # 8
2093 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Imhishesmine:  He asked me to be his gf officially two months after we started dating. Then 7 months later he asked me to be his wife. 🙂

It is my personal belief that if you are sleeping together, you should have the understanding or talk that you are exclusive, but that’s just me!

Post # 9
2890 posts
Sugar bee

@Imhishesmine:  Never. We knew right from the start we were dating into a serious relationship. But we had met online, so prior to having our first date, we had either chatted or talked on the phone for several hours, every day. We already knew a lot about each other’s history, goals, values, etc. Our first date was basically the confirmation we wanted to begin a relationship together, so we never had any discussion about exclusivity, it was the case right from the start. 

Post # 11
12246 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

On our second date!

…After about 48 hours in bed. Ahem.

Post # 12
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

My SO asked me to be his gf about 1 month into dating.  Prior to him asking I’d say it was fair for either of us to be dating other people if we wanted to.  I don’t assume automatically that just because I’m on a date with someone that I’m the only person he’s dating until he asks me to be his gf.  In out case, I stopped dating other people after our second date because I knew that he was special and I didn’t want to “spoil” our beginning by having any other guys in the picture.

Post # 13
5878 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Since we were in what I affectionately call an “accidental LDR” it was several months in.  If we’d lived in the same place I’m sure it would have been in the order of weeks instead.

Post # 14
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Even though we had met at a few gatherings prior to dating we didn’t know each other. We went on our First date on January 22 and we made it official by the 26th of January. Granted we saw each other 5 days straight. Something I had never done before, hadn’t even slept with him before making it official which was new for me lol. I guess the exclusivity came with the “official title” 🙂 

Post # 15
9781 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

We were exclusive from the day we started going out, we were both young and had only ever had relationships, neither of us had ever ‘just dated’ somebody. We never even thought about the possibility of non exclusivity.

Post # 16
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Never. This is England. We assume unless told otherwise.

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