Post # 1
Hello Ladies–I’m new here, but have been reading for a while now.So I am curious when you and your Fiance discussed the mattter of exclusivity? How far in before you decided you wouldn’t see others?
Thanks for your thoughts!
Post # 3
First date. But we knew each other for a couple years beforehand.
Post # 4
@Imhishesmine: We discussed it before he was “FI.” We discussed it way before then..
Post # 5
We didn’t. We just knew we were (first date).
Post # 6
@Imhishesmine: First date. One of the reasons we clicked was because of our firm belief that when you’re dating a person, you are only dating that person. That shared belief was what helped us through our first year together which was long-distance dating.
Post # 7
I’ve never been in a relationship where it was discussed. Now, granted, past relationships had been with people that I was friends with beforehand, so I already knew they plain and simple weren’t dating someone, so I never really learned how to organically introduce that question into things. Now my man was more of a meet out in public, chat, have fun, give phone number, go on dates thing, and it wasn’t until we were more than a year into our relatiohsip that he mentioned that he had met another person that same night, gone on a few dates, then broke it off when he realized he and I had a connection. I’m so used to being a one man kind of lady, it didn’t even occur to me that he would have dated someone else at the same time.
Post # 8
@Imhishesmine: He asked me to be his gf officially two months after we started dating. Then 7 months later he asked me to be his wife. 🙂
It is my personal belief that if you are sleeping together, you should have the understanding or talk that you are exclusive, but that’s just me!
Post # 9
@Imhishesmine: Never. We knew right from the start we were dating into a serious relationship. But we had met online, so prior to having our first date, we had either chatted or talked on the phone for several hours, every day. We already knew a lot about each other’s history, goals, values, etc. Our first date was basically the confirmation we wanted to begin a relationship together, so we never had any discussion about exclusivity, it was the case right from the start.
Post # 10
When I met my Fiance I was just coming off a bad period of dating losers and liars. We met, he asked for my number and I gave it to him, but I seriously thought he’d never call me. He did and we had a great time. I didn’t date anyone else during this time.
Six months in he told me he was engaged to be married on the evening he met me. He went home and broke up with her that night, but wisely didn’t tell me that at that time. He proposed on our 7th month. I’m pretty content with the way things are now and am not in any hurry to marry, children are not in the picture, and mine are older.
Post # 11
On our second date!
…After about 48 hours in bed. Ahem.
Post # 12
My SO asked me to be his gf about 1 month into dating. Prior to him asking I’d say it was fair for either of us to be dating other people if we wanted to. I don’t assume automatically that just because I’m on a date with someone that I’m the only person he’s dating until he asks me to be his gf. In out case, I stopped dating other people after our second date because I knew that he was special and I didn’t want to “spoil” our beginning by having any other guys in the picture.
Post # 13
Since we were in what I affectionately call an “accidental LDR” it was several months in. If we’d lived in the same place I’m sure it would have been in the order of weeks instead.
Post # 14
Even though we had met at a few gatherings prior to dating we didn’t know each other. We went on our First date on January 22 and we made it official by the 26th of January. Granted we saw each other 5 days straight. Something I had never done before, hadn’t even slept with him before making it official which was new for me lol. I guess the exclusivity came with the “official title” 🙂
Post # 15
We were exclusive from the day we started going out, we were both young and had only ever had relationships, neither of us had ever ‘just dated’ somebody. We never even thought about the possibility of non exclusivity.
Post # 16
Never. This is England. We assume unless told otherwise.