(Closed) When did your FI or DH realize he wanted to marry you?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hm, good question.  I know when I first started dating J, he told me he wanted NOTHING to do with marriage.  He was completely against it.  His friends were horrible examples, btw.  But then one day, we got into a little argument when he told me that I am the only person he would ever change his stance on marriage.  I never questioned it.  I never brought it up.  I didn’t want him to feel that he was being rushed, but he did know that I really want to be his wife.  He told me in November that he’ll propose when ready.  He brought this up because his family was pressuring him to propose, but I told him not to worry about it and to take all the time he needs.  So, it really shocked me when he proposed on Christmas Eve.  I never, ever thought it would happen this soon.  We couldn’t be happier though.  πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I went to Californa for two weeks with my family. I guess over the course of those two weeks he decided he didn’t want to be without me again. He had been thinking about it for months and hadn’t found the right time to propose!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

When I told him I was pregnant …

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

When I told him I was pregnant …

*snort*  that needed a coke alert Bandit!

 

for me… i think my answer is when i told him that is what he was going to do, which was pretty much about a week after he held my hand for the first time

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

On our 4th date we went into NYC, we live in Connecticut so just a short train ride in, we were walking through grand central station and he leaned in my ear and said, “I’m going to marry you one day.” I laughed and remember thinking he was moving a little too fast, but a year later in that same spot in Grand Central Station he proposed. He claims he knew right away.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I guess he had a long time overseas to think about it, because it was sometime then. He told me he woke up one day, said “I want to marry her” and thought about it every day until he was home to do it! I love that boy!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t know the exact moment he thought about it, but early on in our relationship, before we were even “officially” dating but had been best friends/something more for about 6 months, he had a Freudian slip.  We were driving, and he was talking about how he’s half Irish and half Polish, which is significant, but that it’s weird his kids would only be a quarter Irish and a quarter Polish.  And the rest would be made up of other random stuff, like Jewish.  I’m Jewish.  He totally panicked the second he said it, and I teased him for a minute and let it go.  We got serious a few months after that, but I knew he was already picturing us together long term, and it was adorable.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

On our first date πŸ™‚ He waited a good 6 months to ask, though.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He had told me that when he first saw me, he told himself that he was gonna marry that girl.  Which was really cute and sweet and it was just kinda meant to be for us.  We dated 5 months and then he proposed in the middle of a huge fight! 9 months later we were married in a small intimate setting.  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Honestly, before we started dating! I went to visit him and a bunch of friends and while I was walking to my car, he talked to my good girl friends and said… I’m going to marry her! πŸ™‚ Aww!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

the day he met me!

he told his best friend the night that we met that he wanted to marry me. he told me about a week after we met.

it was one of those love at first sight kinda things…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Fiance says he knew for sure 3 months after we started dating…. However, he popped the question on our one year anniversary…

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I actually JUST asked my Fiance about this the other night.  I guess he knew during my junior year of college/his senior year when I was starting to look at grad schools.  It was over spring break I think when I was at home, and I was majorly stressing about how I didn’t even know where to begin narrowing down my search, as I didn’t know where he was going to be when he graduated & so I was looking everywhere.. west coast, east coast, midwest, southeast, southwest.. everywhere.  Finally he told me not to worry about it, and he would move with me wherever I decided to go.  

He told me when I asked the other night that it was when he decided he was going to move with me was when he was heading in that direction (which seriously surprised me since that following year (last year for both of us there) all of our friends & his coworkers would joke about like “oh let me know when you’re getting married” & he always seemed uncomfortable when his parents or anyone else would joke about it.  He started seriously thinking about it when we first moved out here for me to go to school & moved in together, and sometime in Feb/March talked to his parents & my parents about it, and then proposed in April!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

On our first date.  I didn’t know about it until way later but the day after our first date he told his co-workers that he knew I was special and that I was the one. πŸ™‚

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