Post # 1
I asked my girlfriends to be bridesmaids several months ago, shortly after I got engaged, and right before I started shopping for my dress.
When is a “normal” time for a guy to ask his friends to be in the wedding?
Post # 3
My man asked right away and so did I. I think we pretty much asked people the week or two after our engagement, but they’re all our best friends so I think they expected it anyway.
Post # 4
He was suppose to ask shortly after our engagement. We got engaged in May. We gave him a “deadline” of September. He asked in Oct and wedding is in Jan. He was dreading picking someone to stand with him.
Post # 5
We’ve already asked ours and I have yet to be engaged, but it’s coming! LOL We already knew. However he is still trying to figure out a third. If he gets a third I can have a fourth…if not oh well.
Post # 6
Fiance did it a couple of weeks after we got engaged after I bugged him about it, but he already pretty much knew who he was going to have.
Post # 7
Fiance is going to have 4 groomsmen so he asked them as he went…probably all together about a month after the engagement. The last one lives out of the country so we asked him when he came back to the States. We already knew they would do it for they are family and a few close friends. Me on the other hand…I asked my Bridesmaid or Best Man the day I got engaged!
Post # 8
We both did a couple weeks after getting engaged. We both knew really quickly who we wanted to ask so why not let them know as soon as possible!
Post # 9
Mine insisted that he didn’t need to ask or say anything – “Don’t worry about it, they know.” How do they know?!?! “They just know”. That didn’t fly and I insisted he call them. Not sure timewise when it was though, 10months out?
Post # 10
I asked as I told them I was engaged, they are my closest friends and family. the only one I didn’t ask with the rest was his sister because I left that up to him if he wanted her in it. Fiance on the other hand STILL has to ask 1 more. he tried telling me he has until January because that is when they have to get fitted for the tuxes. I told him he has until the end of November!
Post # 11
He asked in August for our May wedding. I asked right away, but it was an easier decision for me!
Post # 12
Thanks, everyone. This is interesting. I’m concerned because my fiance has only asked one friend (out of five), and our wedding is 7 months away. I want to get save-the-dates out next month, and get our wedding website up and running. But it seems kind of strange to be doing all that when we don’t have our wedding party settled (or rather, he doesn’t have his wedding party settled).
Also, when do tuxes have to get ordered?? Should I be worried about that? Wedding is in June.
Post # 13
My Fiance asked his best man about a month ago. He asked a second Groomsman last week, but has yet to ask his brother. I think part of it boils down to the fact that he really doesn’t want to ask his brother. I think 5-6 months out is probably a good point for the groom to start asking his guys.
Post # 14
SuperBrook — that makes me feel better!
Post # 15
we are almost 3 months away! yay! and he sitll hasnt asked them! but promises to.
luckily most of them are family..we know they will all be there but still he needs to officially ask. Guys just dont think like we do. i asked my girls right after i got engaged.