Post # 1
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Honey bee
My FH and I have been together for 2 years, and our parents have never met. I’ve met his parents and most of his family, he’s met my parents and some of my family. But there’s never been a parent meeting. Everyone seems to think that it’s odd and sometimes I think it’s a little strange, but it’s not something that really bothers me a whole lot, but I know his parents have suggested a dinner or something and my parents aren’t really all that interested.
How long were you and your SO/FH together before the parents met each other?
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
About a month after I met his, and two weeks or so after he met mine. Everyone came to my senior recital!
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
Our parents met the day we got married–and they’ve seen each other maybe 2 or 3 times in the year and a half since then. They’re not bothered by it.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
My parents are divorced, Fiance’s are not, so it was 3 separate meetings. My mom and stepdad met his parents after we had been dating a little more than 2 years. My dad met his parents after we got engaged, about 3 years into our relationship.
Our parents live on opposite coasts so I didn’t think was weird at all.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
They met about a month after we got engaged. They live in different states. And it was really awkward…
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
My parents met his Dad and Step Mom after we were together a little over a year (and had been engaged a month). My parents won’t meet his Mom and Step-Dad until the week of the wedding! Eek!
Post # 8
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Honey bee
@yellowhammerlady: and @SerenaSF: I’m glad I’m not the only one. I was beginning to feel a little weird about it, since I seem to have been with my FH longer than some of my friends, and their parents have already met each other.
I don’t expect them to be best buddies or anything, because I know that mine and FH’s upbringing and our parent’s views on things are very different.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
Our parents met a year after we did. It probably would have been sooner but my parents live in the States and his live in Australia. I was worried about the meeting as our moms are EXACTLY alike and we knew they would either love each other and hate each other. Fortunately, it was the former! The wedding will only be the second time they will have met, although the two moms communicate somewhat regularly over email.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
They met at our undergraduate graduation, about 2 1/2 years into us dating. Won’t see eachother again until the wedding though.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
my parents met his mom and step dad when we graduated from university. But they haven’t met his dad and step mom yet.
I worry actually about how the rest of our families are going to mesh at the wedding… we have some pretty strong personalities
Post # 12
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Helper bee
We were together almost a year & I threw him a surprise party. I figured it was a good way for several members of his family to meet several members of mine & the presence of music, lots of people & an open bar would make it go a bit better.
It went well & then his parents came to our family Thanksgiving that year & have had dinner at my mother’s house a few times since then. His parents have not hosted anything yet (and are not likely to since Mother-In-Law is anti-social & doesn’t seem to like me).
Post # 13
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Busy bee
His mom (his dad died) flew out to Oregon while we were starting to do wedding planning. She was there for about half the time we were out there. She stayed at a hotel. It was nice. Lots of time to talk. His mom and my mom got along very well so it was just fine. His mom is so easy-going, though. I totally lucked out.
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Our parents came to help us move when we bought our condo together. It was terrible because Darling Husband got called in to work, and it was totally non-negotiable mid-move. So it was just me and our parents… moving.
Post # 15
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Honey bee
I know they’ll meet at the rehearsal dinner at least, but I have to admit that I am worried about them meeting. FH’s parents are very conservative and my parent’s are, well, not. My Future Mother-In-Law is a pretty easy going woman. She is wonderful, despite the fact that we don’t see eye to eye on much.
Post # 16
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Helper bee
Our families met about a year after we started dating, at our college graduation. They have seen eachother quite a few times since, for some holidays and birthdays.
