(Closed) When did your parents meet your FILs? And how did it go?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When did your parents and your FILs meet for the first time?
    While you were dating : (40 votes)
    55 %
    Once you got engaged : (28 votes)
    38 %
    At the wedding : (5 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I picked engaged because my parents hadn’t met all of his parents/stepparents until our engagement party, but my mom had briefly met a couple of them before.  It actually went well, they are mostly opposites but they got along really well.  The thing is, if they haven’t even met yet and live 8 hours away, chances are they probably won’t be seeing each other too much even after you’re married except maybe some holidays, right?  So even if they don’t get along, it should be ok.  Don’t stress!

    Post # 4
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    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Well to be honest, his parents and my parents don’t get along at all.  That’s mostly because my stepfather was incredibly rude, mean spirited and generally awful to all of us when they met because…well I guess because thats just how he is.  Ugh.  

    But I have to say – I think that for a wedding – both sets of parents will be so excited that it should work out well.  They will probably feel like they have something in common and I would think that the happy festive atmosphere could only help things.  

    Good luck! I think things will work out great. 

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i ticked once we got engaged but we dated/decided to get married pretty quick

    and the meeting wasnt the best… my mother walked away saying his family was cheap and rude while his father decided to butcher the italian language when speaking to my mother (who speaks perfect english btw and his family is greek)

    they arrived early and everyone (his parents & brothers) ordered their meals and was nearly finished eating by the time we (inc my FI) got seated then his parents tried to get everyone to pay their share of the bill while my Fiance was trying to just pay the bill in full without any contributions.

    it wasnt the best… they dont hate eachother but my mother thinks they are a bit low brow and although it pains me greatly to agree with my mother – in social situations his parents are very clueless on alot of things although they are lovely people

    btw, i once invited them over for a lamb roast sunday lunch (and i HATE HATE HATE lamb)…. they went to the RSL and ate lunch before they came over so goes to show how totally clueless his family is

    i have asked hubby a few times if he is really related to these people because he is so different from the rest of them.

    Post # 6
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    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    They met once we got engaged but thats because my FIL’s live in NY and my parents live in SC. It was rare if all of us were in the same state at the same time.

    The parents met once so far and it seemed to go well. I think I was more nervous than they were. I wish we all lived closer to strengthen the bond.

    Post # 7
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    1016 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I live in Ireland and I’m from Connecticut so we’d been together less than a year when my parents came to visit.  Fiance and I were already pretty serious and I’d had the chance to spend quite a bit of time with his parents by then so I wanted his parents to meet mine.  Fiance was a little freaked out because he thought it was too soon/too big of a deal but I didn’t think it would be a big problem – my parents are friendly and easy going and so are his.  I thought they would just have a chance for a normal social visit and that’s what it was.  It was almost like Fiance and I weren’t even there – our parents just chatted away about all sorts of things and it was really nice.  No mention of us or our relationship or if wedding bells were in the future. 

    So for us it worked out really well but I think it either set of parents had issues with our relationship or if either set didn’t like their son/daughter’s choice of SO it would have been more difficult.  Luckily his parents like me and my parents like him and we each like each other’s parents.  That and we’re in our 30’s so our parents have seen how our decisions have worked out in the past and they trust us (together and separately).

    Good luck with your parents meeting – I am sure in the fun and excitement of the wedding it will be great!

    Post # 8
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    Newbee

    My mom met my Father-In-Law about a month after we got engaged. It went really well. My fiance and I are both military brats, and one of the reasons why I love his family is because they remind me of my own (before my dad died in ’04). I was hoping it would go really well and our parents would all get along and they definitely seemed to. They’ve gotten together for cookouts a couple of times since then and it seems like it’s going well go far. 🙂

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Our parents met about a year after we started dating.  We all went out to lunch after our college graduation.  The first meeting went well, everyone chatted and got along.  Since then everything has been great with our parents, they don’t see each other very often, but when they do, everything is fine.

    Our parents are really different from each other.  Mine own a Pub and his don’t drink, LOL.  My parents can’t get through a tv show without falling asleep and his parents follow a lot of shows. 

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    They met once we were engaged. We were engaged exactly a year after we met, and the parents met 25 days later, so it’s not like it was a crazy long time. 🙂 It went really well.

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    our parents actually knew eachother before me and my fi did, years ago through our temple. they haven’t seen each other in years, so when we started getting serious we finally decided it was time for them to get together and it was fun for them to meet up again.

    Post # 12
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    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

    The parents are all meeting this weekend at my wedding shower!  I’m a ball of nerves!

    Post # 13
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    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    MY Future Mother-In-Law is SUPER social and insisted on meeting my parents while we were still dating. My dad was like, no ring, what’s the point? So I’d say with my Future Mother-In-Law being a little loud and obnoxious and my dad being somewhat standoffish around strangers it went ok. I doubt those two like each other too much so far but they don’t actively dislike each other either. She is just confused by his general lack of social skills and he is annoyed by her insisting on being the loud center of attention. My mom and Future Father-In-Law are both great and perfectly happy all the time though so it all works out ok.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee

    I checked dating, but that isn’t exactly true.  My parents met FI’s Mom while we were dating.  They haven’t met his Dad yet, but will very soon (his parents are divorced).  Things went fine with his Mom.  His Dad is very eccentric and I’m a little more worried about that one.  

    Post # 15
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    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Also now that we are engaged dad is way more friendly. He is just a little overprotective.

    Post # 16
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    801 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    His parents met my dad when we were still dating and they get along very well.  My mom didn’t meet his parents until we were engaged and I’ll just say the mothers don’t get along very well.

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