(Closed) When did your parents meet your FILs? And how did it go?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When did your parents and your FILs meet for the first time?
    While you were dating : (40 votes)
    55 %
    Once you got engaged : (28 votes)
    38 %
    At the wedding : (5 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 17
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    5282 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My parents met my Future In-Laws after we were engaged, we weren’t there, which made me nervous, the meeting went well, except for my Future Father-In-Law getting “offended” when my mom suggested that they can help set up decorations for the wedding, apparently my mom thinking that the grooms parents would want to help decorate, in his opinion, was rude!! WOW!

    A few days after their first meeting, Future Father-In-Law called my parents to very rudely say to them ” I don’t understand why arn’t you arn’t paying for the wedding!” He also called to inform them that “the bride’s family pays for the wedding & thats how things work!” Um HELLO! Times change and there are many couples that pay for their own wedding OR the grooms family may even pitch in, who would of thunk it!?!  

    Post # 18
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    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    We got engaged in December. My father and step mom came out in August to look at a house with us, and they met Fi’s mom then. It went pretty well. FI’s mom can be a little high strung, but she has a HUGE heart and was concerned at us looking at a 150k house when she and Future Father-In-Law spent 30k building their house 30 years ago. So she was a little strung out. We had lunch afterwards, which went pretty well. When I went home (3 hrs away) later, my parents said that she “must wear the pants in the marriage” and that she was high strung and over bearing. I took it with a grain of salt, knowing that FI’s mom is just the type of person who *never* sits down or stops moving. They have a dairy farm, and it’s constant on the go to keep things running.

    My mom is coming out to look at the venue next weekend and will probably meet FI’s mom then, since she’ll probably go with us. I’m more concerned about my mom and FI’s mom meeting, since my mom in an alcoholic and I’ve talked to FI’s mom about it quite a bit. (she’s really like a mom to me). My biggest fear is FI’s family meeting my mom’s bf, a loud, crude, obnoxious, pushy drunk. Thankfully he’ll only be around for the wedding, and *finger crossed* there won’t be any issues.

    Post # 20
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    14181 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well, seeing as how our families live 5 hours apart, we decided to get everyone together at our engagement party. They came in town for labor day, we bbq’d some burgers, and we threw my parents, his mom, grandparents, and sister and her family, and our friends together and poured some sangria. They’ve only met since at the wedding. It’s not real feasible with the distance. I mean, if my parents are coming in town to see me, i’m not going to get everyone together just for that purpose.

    We’d been together 3.5 years by the time we got engaged and they met =]

    Eloping, my parents can be very “high brow” also, and they really act like it. It’s kind of embarassing to watch them flaunt and fluff in front of other people. I want a big sign that says “i’m not like that!!!!” and yet, my parents can be so cheap it’s embarassing, like handing us the ticket to a lunch after paying for everybody…but my husband and i! Weird, considering we were paying for them to come to our house that weekend, paid for their meals at the wedding, and got a hotel so *they* wouldn’t to on our wedding night. People perturbe me

    Post # 21
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    1900 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    When my parents met FI’s Mom and her boyfriend we weren’t even there, so it was really nerve wracking for us. I think it went okay except that there was a misunderstanding over the dinner bill and then one snyde remark was made by FI’s Mom’s Boyfriend or Best Friend and my Dad of couse was a wise-a** back. They get along fairly well now, but will never be buds.

    When FI’s Dad & Step-Mom met my parents. Oi vay! Too much drinking took place (by my parents backyard pool) and first there was the whole politics thing (they were major Bush supporters and my parents NOT, even though they are conservative). Seriously, aren’t they old enough to know not to talk politics? Then, I’m embarassed to say, my FI’s Dad had too much to drink and, at one point, asked my Mom to sit in his lap! With his wife sitting right next to him! WTF? I thought it was a disaster but everyone else seems to have moved on. It felt like we were on a bad reality show a couple of times!

    I told my friend that if anyone misbehaves at this wedding, it will be the parents and not any of us:-)

    Post # 22
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    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Our parents met on the day we were moving into our apartment together. It went well though despite the potential for awkwardness! That was four years ago and they get along famously.

    Post # 23
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    4566 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My parents are meeting my boyfriends parents in 2 weeks! They’re meeting on the 17th and we’ll have been dating for a year on the 22nd. I’m pretty nervous since my parents are pretty social and talk alot and his… don’t. Moms will be fine cause they are both funny, but once talk turns to business, the Dads might have some conflict… my dad has an interest in luxury real estate and his dad is a real estate lawyer, but their viewpoints are totally different. Politically, my parents are conservative and his are liberal. Ooooh it’ll be so interesting!

    Post # 24
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    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    UGH. Awkward. My parents are still married and his parent’s divorced a few years ago. His Dad and My dad became BFFs right on the spot. I even call my Future Father-In-Law “Uncle Dad” because he’s like my dad’s long lost brother! My FMIL is another story. The acronym should be shortened to FML. She is totally passive aggressive and weird. She ended up bursting into tears at our engagement party because she thought that we would never visit her after we’re married because we’ve got a tight relationship with my parents. Get this, she’s a frickin’ therapist!

    Post # 25
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    792 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My parents met my FIL’s when I was 10, haha.

    When I was 10 my family moved from N.Y. to PA and Fiance and his family were our next door neighbors. Fiance was 12 at the time, and Fiance and I started dating when I was 19, and him 21. I am 22 now, and he is 24, and we just got engaged this past August. I will be 23 and him 25 when we are married.

    Post # 26
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    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    wow. yeah, our parents do not get along. i have no idea how it’s going to go on the day of the wedding. hopefully they’ll be cordial and decent!

    Post # 27
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My parents met FI’s mom a couple of months after we got engaged.  It went well… We went out to dinner, and there was a really awkward moment with the check, but other than that everything went great.  The check issue was cleared up after the fact. 

    My parents still haven’t met FI’s dad (his parents are divorced).  We’ve totally been putting that one off b/c we think it’s going to be a pretty awkward encounter.  My parents and his dad have little to nothing in common, and FI’s dad has the tendancy to ramble on about whatever is on his mind, whether or not it makes good conversation.  Eek!  We’re going to need to bite the bullet soon, and have them meet each other anyways.

    Post # 28
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    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    we’ve been together since 2004 and got married last year at the courthouse. we’re finally having our big wedding next year. ive met his parents and hes met mine but our parents have yet to meet each other.

    Post # 29
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    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Our families met shortly after we started dating, but it’s kind of a different situation than most – we started dating in high school and our families lived about 5 minutes apart…when we were still in HS our parents are still pretty involved in our lives, haha.

    Post # 30
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    1037 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

    Our parents didn’t meet until after the engagement…to me it felt SUPER awkward…but my parents thought it went very well! I guess that is all I could have hoped for!

    Post # 31
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    1385 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My father met the Future In-Laws while we were dating, about 2 months before we got engaged. Crazy mother however will not meet the Future In-Laws until this Christmas (about 9 months before the wedding) OR at the actual rehearsal dinner itself. This is mainly because (as aforementioned) mother is crazy! 🙂

    Good luck!

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