Post # 1
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Sugar bee
My boyfriend and I haven’t been together that long – since October. With the holidays, it was easy for him to meet my parents, and me his.
His parents live out of state and are coming in at the end of the month for a business trip for his dad. Usually his mom does not come with but this time she is.
We were on Skype with them last night and his mom blurted out that she would love to meet my parents while they are in. It was a bit of an awkward moment because I think she was so excited that the words just came out and his dad did a face palm. She immediately apologized and said she didn’t mean to put me on the spot and if I thought it was too soon she didn’t want to pressure me.
My boyfriend and I talked and we decided (well, more me) that it would be fine if they met. I get along well with my folks (although like most parents, they drive me crazy sometimes) and he gets along well with his. My parents love my boyfriend, even my dad who usually takes a while to warm up to someone. It’s not like I’m trying to keep our parents apart, but with them being out of state (and us still early in our relationship) it hasn’t come up until now. Actually, this would be the earliest where our parents would have met.
So just curious, when did your parents meet your SO’s parents?
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
So my previous boyfriend, the one right before my husband, was someone I dated in high school and a year or so afterward. Due to our age, our parents met quickly, but then their parents wanted to “stay connected” to my family, dinners, parties, etc. and my parents weren’t into that. After we broke up my Dad’s exact words were, “I don’t want to meet any parents of any boyfriends unless you intend to marry them, I’m not doing that again.” So they didn’t meet until we were quite serious, and we all happened to be at the same place at the same time so I think it would of stretched to our engagement honestly. My mom met his mom after about a year though.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
- Wedding: November 2017 - France
Our parents won’t meet until the wedding next year, different countries and different languages.
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
After we got engaged. His parents and my parents live a 4 hour plane ride apart so it didnt make sense. Not that it mattered anyways since they still proably woudln’t have met if they were in the same city. My parents never met the parents of anyone I dated, not even my BF of almost 7 years who lived just 30 minutes away.
Post # 5
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Worker bee
sunnierdaysahead2: My fiance and I have been together since high school. We went to prom together but our parents didn’t officially meet until our engagement party. Actually, my parents only met his mom- not his dad, because 4 days before our engagement party, his dad suffered a heart attack (he’s ok now) and he couldn’t make it. So, our parents won’t actually get to formally meet until our wedding lol!
Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
We were dating 8+ years. Our parents met via Facetime a week before the wedding, I think. My husband did not look forward to that and my mom had some weird crazy laughter moment during the talk that made them think she might be a teeny bit nuts. They met for real a couple of days before and got along very well.. They live on opposite coasts, so anything otherwise would have been illogical. The in-laws want to invite my folks out for a visit sometime now.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
they haven’t even met yet tbh! his parents live in a different country, and mine are interstate. they will all meet next week at our engagement party though! and then not till the wedding after that..
ftr we’ve been together for five years.
Post # 8
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Newbee
They aren’t meeting until the wedding, maybe the day before for dinner. It will probably be super awkward. I’m glad to keep them apart for as long as possible. Also, his parents and mine live over 2,000 miles apart, which makes it pretty easy to keep them far apart from each other.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
Our parents live like five blocks apart haha. I think they met right at the 1 year mark, his parents invited us over for dinner. FBIL’s Future In-Laws (lol) were also there.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
My fiance’s parents and mine met at our undergraduate graduation ceremony – 4.5 years after we had started dating and 10 months before we were engaged. His parents are from Alabama and mine are from Texas which is where he and I both live and there just hadn’t been a cause to meet prior to then.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
Our parents met relatively early on in our relationship. We started dating at high school, so we often had our parents dropping us off at each other’s houses – neither set of parents wanted to seem rude, so always walked their child to the door and introduced themselves lol. My dad and step mother actually live in the same street as my future ILs now – they don’t socialise without my Fiance or I around, but my Future Mother-In-Law knows there is someone nearby just in case (my Future Father-In-Law sadly passed away last year, so she’s alone now).
mrscross1020: I know what you mean about this lol. My dad and step mother have invited my future ILs and my sister’s boyfriend’s parents to my dad’s 50th and my step mother’s recent 40th birthday parties. I know that my Future Mother-In-Law finds it a little awkward, particularly as her husband is no longer around, but she does appreciate that their hearts are in the right place. I don’t think my parents would make it a regular thing, just for more “special” occasions.
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
I invited my husbands parents to my 18th birthday. We’d been dating 4 months at that stage.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
Our parents met 2 months into us dating but just because of logistics, not because we planned it. It actually kinda freaked me out when I realized they would be meeting.
I was staying with DH at his parent’s for a few days before Christmas, before leaving on a cruise with my family. The cruise was leaving from a port near his hometown, so my parents picked me up on the way to the cruise. So it was brief, but my Mother-In-Law still insisted on giving my parents a tour of their house. It was awkward as heck! lol. The next time they saw eachother I think was after we got engaged (2 years later).
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
The weekend of the wedding. However, his mom had been in contact with my dad and step mom awhile before that.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
My parents met his mom after 8 months on Christmas Eve. My mom invited his mom to her house for the holidays so everyone could be together.