(Closed) When did your parents meet your SO's parents?

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll: Your parents met...
    Before we started dating (knew each other prior) : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Within the first 6 months of dating : (20 votes)
    18 %
    6 months - 1 year of dating : (12 votes)
    11 %
    > 1 year of dating : (16 votes)
    14 %
    once we got engaged : (29 votes)
    26 %
    not until the wedding : (32 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 31
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    Busy bee

    I spoke with Fiance about this the other day.. his and my parents have never met and we have been together 6 and a half years.

    I have been pretty independent since i left home at 18 and I am not super close with my parents and didnt see them more than a few times a year (i have lived overseas for the past 2 years) My Fi has only met my dad maybe twice and my mum a handful or 2 of times, but we skype now and again and they will have a little chat.

    We would see FI’s parents at least once a month or so when we lived back in the UK. I do wonder if they find it odd they havent met my parents but they know there have been some ‘struggles’ and hardships leading to why I dont see them very often. Fiance doesnt find it weird at all! The wedding (which wont be for a few years) will be interesting.. but hey maybe things will change within that time!

    Post # 32
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    1122 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Our parents met right before we got engaged after 1.5 years of dating.  

    Post # 33
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    3611 posts
    Sugar bee

    At our law school graduation almost three years into our relationship but before our engagement, only because both sets of parents were in town and it would have been kind of weird not to introduce them given how serious we knew our relationship was. If it wasn’t for that, they probably wouldn’t have met until we got engaged.

    Post # 34
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    176 posts
    Blushing bee

    Boyfriend met my mom/step dad after a month since I was living with them. Met my dad after about a year or so. My mom/step dad and his dad/girlfriend love hanging out when my parents come to visit, and are even going to Vegas just them this weekend. A little strange but I love it! 

    Post # 35
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    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Technically, they met before we even started dating at parent’s weekend at our college freshman year – and funny enough, they both remembered it, despite it being like a 30-second meeting.

    They met for real at our college graduation – so 3 years after we started dating. We lived almost 400 miles from both our families, so there wasn’t really an opportunity until then. When we got engaged, his parents invited mine to their beach house for a weekend, and throughout the planning process they got together a few more times (mostly our moms).

    Post # 36
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    4243 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    They met over brunch right after we had started discussing engagement and our future.  My dad was totally oblivious, but my mom was all “LJM WHAT DOES THIS MEANNNNN????” Haha

    Post # 37
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    425 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    They met once my husband and I had been dating about a month. We started dating in high school, but we lived about an hour from eachother. Our friend groups ended up combining (my best friends/ his best friends/ my cousins/ his sisters) and we would all spend every weekend together. After two times of all of us spending entire weekends together, the parents decided they all needed to meet. It made our wedding party pretty surreal for everybody since all of the adults/ “kids” had been friends for about 9 years by the time we got married.

    Post # 38
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    7897 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Our parents didn’t meet until a few days before the wedding celebration. Technically, we had married in a private ceremony before that celebration, so we were already married at that point! DH’s parents were living out of the country at the time, and my parents live far from an airport, so it would have been a lot to ask for them to meet before then. 

    If you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend are getting serious and if it’s not too much trouble getting them all together, it could be a “fun” experience for all of you. If it’s not in the cards, I wouldn’t push too hard for it though. 

    Post # 39
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    3875 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    sunnierdaysahead2:  My parents met DH’s mom about eight months into our relationship at a birthday party I threw for him. My parents didn’t meet DH’s dad until…maybe two years into our relationship? And then his step-dad for at least four years (the April before our wedding). They lived within thirty minutes of each other, but honestly, I knew my parents and his parents simply wouldn’t get along, so I tried to hold off for as long as possible. To this day, they came together for the wedding, but they haven’t seen each other since and probably won’t see each other again until my eventual baby shower however many years down the road. 

    Post # 40
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    892 posts
    Busy bee

    only months before the wedding. we all live on opposite corners of the country, so we found a “middle ground” to meet up: vegas. it was not my idea. 

    Post # 41
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    591 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

    Our parents have been friends for 15 years, so they’ve hung out and been to several family functions together long before we started dating.

    My mom and his mom have started to bicker more now that there is a wedding to plan, but they get over it. Our dads still get along great.

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  Meglin.
    Post # 42
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    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We had been together for almost 3 years and had been engaged for around 8 months. My parents were invited to a party for a milestone birthday of his mothers as my partner and his siblings were arranging it. Was nice as it wasn’t too full on and everyone was fairly relaxed.

    Post # 43
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Ceremony and Reception: Historic mansion on the water

    My Dad passed away a few years ago.  My Mom and my FH’s parents most likely won’t meet unitl the wedding.  I have hopes for an earlier meeting but I doubt it.  

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Let’s see, my dad knew my Darling Husband and his parents before I was born, Darling Husband remembers seeing my mom in her hot rod once, he remembered the car, not necessarily my mom. He met my mom about a year after we got married.  He met my step dad 3 years after we got married.  And neither my mom or step dad ever met his parents. I never met his parents either, at least not that I remember.

    Both DH’s parents and my dad are all passed on.  My dad hadn’t seen Darling Husband in 30 years but remembered him immediately.

    Nothing in the poll applies. 🙂

    Post # 45
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    1514 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

    I have been with dh for over 11 years, married 7.5 of those years and our parents have never met! When we got married his dad was in Turkey for 6 months and his mother doesn’t like social atmospheres, she was apparently “sick” the day of the wedding. Unfortunately his dad has now passed and so has my mom, so I doubt my dad and his mom will ever meet. My parents did get to meet dh’s sister and his niece though, they attended my bridal shower and the wedding of course.

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