(Closed) When did your sex drive peak?

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

cls9q:  I am 22 and my Fiance 23 he is always ready to go me I couldn’t care less about sex I can even go years without it and I won’t be bother by it. Sometimes we argue about it he ask me if I am feeling someone else blah blah blah and I always have the same answer I am just don’t have the need for sex and at time I just have sex just because he nag me to much about it. So you not the only one with this problem 

Post # 3
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yes yes and yes. It’s sad that men peak at 18 and women around 30. I know I was a horn dog in my mid 20’s but dang me if it didn’t go into overdrive in my 30’s!!! Sadly, his declined a lot. I still have a very high drive in my mid-40’s and he’s struggling each time as he has mentioned, although he’s extremely greatful although frustrated. 

I think the longer you have been together sexually, you become more open. I find that knowing each other better over the years and the intimacy that comes from it, is what truly leads to a better sex life. 

You are only 21, it gets better!!! Have the love, intimacy, and fun and with time you will enjoy it more. 

Post # 4
857 posts
Busy bee

MY Fiance can go any time… and i am in the same boat as you, not alot of drive. I am 25 and hoping it picks up! I have noticed it has been the last year… but may be jsut stress?

Post # 6
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m 35; my peak was in my mid to late 20s..

Post # 7
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m nearly 50 (no menopause yet) and I haven’t really noticed much change due to age. What I have noticed is a very big change due to having kids, and caring for young kids. So it was high before having kids, dropped away after the birth of our first child (around age 30), and slowly picked up once the youngest got to be about 3 or so. As far as I can tell it’s still rising. So I guess I would say that changes in my personal circumstances (i.e. kids older and less demanding, so I’m less tired) are more than offsetting any supposed decrease in drive due to age.

Post # 8
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

Right now I am 35 and I feel like my peak is right now. My husband and I have always had a great sex life, but for some reason I seem to be on overload and want him all of the time. 

Post # 9
4035 posts
Honey bee

I am 25 (26 in 2 months) and my sex drive has definitely increased (don’t know for certain it has “peaked”) in the past 2 years. I used to not be as interested in sex and I didn’t initiate, but now I am way more into it. Not exactly sure why, but it could have to do with my birth control changes too.

Post # 10
159 posts
Blushing bee

Well I’m 20 (21 in May) and my partner is 24. We started dated when I was 18 and have always had a great sex drive. I wasn’t so sure since I was so young at 18 and it took me awhile to feel comfortable about myself. Yet once we both opened up to each other we have sex 1-2 times a day. I know it sounds like a lot, but we are very intimate people.


Post # 11
2951 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

Mine definetly peaked at 30. I’m going on 37 this year and it’s still right up there. 

Post # 12
578 posts
Busy bee

For me, it was my early 20s (so far – I’m only in my early 30s now). I don’t know if that’s really because of biology or because that’s when Darling Husband and I started dating – and thus we were going at it like bunnies. After a few years, I got a lot less interested in sex and we went from 1-3 times a day (egads, how did we ever get anything done) to 1-3 times a week. My sex drive went way up again when we started TTC though, so it’s higher now than it was in my mid-late 20s. I think for me the TTC sex drive boost was a ‘I’m excited to have babies and sex is now actually procreative so it’s new and exciting again’ thing.

Post # 13
4040 posts
Honey bee

First child at 27 second at 31. The chance of someone knocking on your bedroom door, or calling out for “Mommy!” during the night, can put a real damper on activities. I had a hysterectomy at 43, and that was it! Bleh …

Post # 14
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m almost 32, and I’ve been a horndog since I met (and lost my virginity to) Darling Husband when I was 18. I could do it 5+/day if he was up for it, but his libido has definitely dropped in past years. I’m lucky if we have sex 3 times/month… with the exception of this month, praise Jesus. LOL!

Post # 15
1285 posts
Bumble bee

Early 20’s…then mid to late 30’s….

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