(Closed) When do I ask and how long should I wait to name BMs?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would wait until your atleast a year out. Anything can happen in the next 20ish months and you could change your mind as far as who you would like to include. 

I asked my girls right away (16 months before our wedding) but they have been my best friends for 15 years and I know they’re not going anywhere. 

Post # 4
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Hunter's Ridge, Princeton, IL

For sure wait it out until a year at least. So many things can happen until then & you don’t want any bridal party regrets!

Post # 5
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  Congratulations on the engagement!

  I also got engaged nearly 2 years before our big day. It was really, really tough talking to friends that I know I would want in my bridal party and saying that we aren’t officially asking yet. I would wait a little bit, because you never know what will happen.

Post # 6
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You should probably wait… I wish I had, but wasn’t able to due to a long stupid story not worth explaining here. I would ask them around the 1 year mark.

Post # 7
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

ditto to what tinytina said

i wish i had waited due to a long stupid story

Post # 8
1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I was wondering the same thing! I am not getting married until the summer of 2014 though, so I have a LONG time to go! I have asked my two best friends in the world to be in my bridal party, but they are a special situation; one of them has been my best friend since age 2, despite the fact that we have lived in different states for the past several years. The other friend is someone I’ve known for a lot less time, but due to a lot of things we’ve been through I am SURE that she’s not going anywhere. Those girls even went with my FH to offer him moral support when he picked out the ring! I’m including them for sure.

As far as anyone else, I’m going to wait until about a year before the wedding as well. I have no way of knowing who I’m going to be friends with that far in advance!

@keepsmiling19: Any advice on how to deal with people who you know will want to be included?

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