(Closed) When do I give up?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
11113 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Dec-bride: I had this and I’m sure like you it was something I didn’t expect. The only one person that didn’t RSVP was someone who I considered to be a close friend. I text her and left messages which came to no avail. I even tried calling here a coupe of weeks ago to say again, there was no problem, bearing in mind I got married 6 months ago but still nothing. So don’t wait around anymore and don’t cater for them.

Post # 4
Member
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I gave up a couple days before my rsvp date. And guess what, several of them showed up to the wedding anyway. When I saw one of them at the reception (the others came to the ceremony only, so no biggie) I said hi and I was happy to see them ‘oh we wouldn’t have missed it for the world’.

Then why the HELL wouldn’t you answer my repeated calls to rsvp!!!!!!

Post # 5
Member
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would assume that after the RSVP date and left messages that they aren’t coming.  

Post # 6
Member
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you have already trid to make contact with them, I would send  them one last text or email and tell them that you are assuming they are unable to attend and that you will miss them on your wedding day.

Post # 8
Member
1425 posts
Bumble bee

@julies1949:  +1. We have three guests that we’ve been trying to get a hold of as well to no avail. We’re assuming they’re not coming and there will not be a seat or plate for them.

Post # 9
Member
7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@julies1949: This is exactly what I plan to do.

Give them one last chance and then let them know you’ll miss them and you’re checking a “no” next to their name.  Definitely don’t reserve a seat for them after they ignore multiple calls, texts, and emails!

Post # 10
Member
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@julies1949: This is exactly what I did yesterday. Our numbers were due by the end of the day, so that morning I sent out one last set of reminder texts and emails saying that unless you tell me otherwise, I assume you are unable to attend, we’re sorry to miss you and hope to see you soon.

We still hadn’t heard from 17 people by the end of the day. Some were family…some people can be so rude! I have to say that after my own wedding, I will turn into the world’s perfect guest. RSVP on time all the way!

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