Post # 1
bees I need some advice, when do you give up on guests who never rsvp’d and you can’t seem to get a hold of and is ignoring your messages?
At this point I’m happy with the number of guests we have and tired of hunting down the others. I have waited a full month extra and have really got to get moving on this stuff already!! Do i give up on and them and hope they don’t show up (cause there wont be a chair for them if they do?) or do I optimistly waste money buying cake/food/chair covers for the people who can’t be bothered to reply?
Is there a magically universe way to un-invite them? gah! It’s so frustrating! And btw all the them are married, and most recently so they should know better then this!!
Post # 3
@Dec-bride: I had this and I’m sure like you it was something I didn’t expect. The only one person that didn’t RSVP was someone who I considered to be a close friend. I text her and left messages which came to no avail. I even tried calling here a coupe of weeks ago to say again, there was no problem, bearing in mind I got married 6 months ago but still nothing. So don’t wait around anymore and don’t cater for them.
Post # 4
I gave up a couple days before my rsvp date. And guess what, several of them showed up to the wedding anyway. When I saw one of them at the reception (the others came to the ceremony only, so no biggie) I said hi and I was happy to see them ‘oh we wouldn’t have missed it for the world’.
Then why the HELL wouldn’t you answer my repeated calls to rsvp!!!!!!
Post # 5
I would assume that after the RSVP date and left messages that they aren’t coming.
Post # 6
If you have already trid to make contact with them, I would send them one last text or email and tell them that you are assuming they are unable to attend and that you will miss them on your wedding day.
Post # 7
@hisgoosiegirl: ugh this is exactly what I am worried about! was there any problem with them comming? I plan to have only the number chairs I need, theres a good 10-15 more not replied so I’m worried If they show up it means too many butt/not enough chairs. I mean thats like a whole nother table!
Post # 8
@julies1949: +1. We have three guests that we’ve been trying to get a hold of as well to no avail. We’re assuming they’re not coming and there will not be a seat or plate for them.
Post # 9
@julies1949: This is exactly what I plan to do.
Give them one last chance and then let them know you’ll miss them and you’re checking a “no” next to their name. Definitely don’t reserve a seat for them after they ignore multiple calls, texts, and emails!
Post # 10
@julies1949: This is exactly what I did yesterday. Our numbers were due by the end of the day, so that morning I sent out one last set of reminder texts and emails saying that unless you tell me otherwise, I assume you are unable to attend, we’re sorry to miss you and hope to see you soon.
We still hadn’t heard from 17 people by the end of the day. Some were family…some people can be so rude! I have to say that after my own wedding, I will turn into the world’s perfect guest. RSVP on time all the way!
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Post # 12
@misspeanut: lol I’m with you, after this I will be the perfect guest! Live in learn I guess
thanks ladys I will I will give them one last message and count them as out