Post # 1
I moved from east to west coast 6 months ago and i am going to my hometown for the holidays. So all my friends and family who are invited to the wedding live on the east coast and so the only time to have a bridal shower is between christmas and new years. really sucky timing to have a wedding event.
i always said that i knew it was bad timing and no one’s fault, and that as a result i would be happy with whoever showed up and how small the party was.
but now that its getting closer and half my bridesmaids can’t be there. well, i can’t help feeling bummed about it. i chose to have my shower on Dec. 26th, thinking its a day off (in Canada it is) and so people would be free. But i didn’t consider that people go out of town for xmas to visit family and aren’t coming back until a few days after xmas.
So on the 26th, 3 of my BMs can’t be there. My Maid/Matron of Honor (sister) is of course there as she is organizing it. and one of my BMs (who is my best friend above the others) will be there.
but then we also invited like 25 other people and so far only 7 have RSVP’d (and that includes the ones i mentioned already plus my mom, aunt, + family friend -who can come any weekend).
Some people are saying i should have had the shower on Jan. 2nd, as more people would be back in town. Now i am afraid they are right. but invitations have been sent. My sister says she can email/call everyone to let them know the change of date. but i am not sure if i should change the date or keep it as it is…..help!!
Post # 3
First I would check in with the people that you feel are the most important people you want at the shower. See what their availability is and if more people could come to a Jan 2nd shower, go ahead and just call everyone with the new date. I don’t think anyone will be too upset with a date change. It’s a hastle to call everyone but ultimately it’s more important to have the people there that you want to be there with you.
Post # 4
@mg1363: thanks for your advice. i keep going back and forth in my head. like one minute i decided on jan 2, then the next, i am firm on keeping the 26th! so i made a poll! i know other people can’t really decide for me, but might as well try, lol.
the problem with what you said is that all the important people i want there the most are split. sort of. my absolute best friend probably cannot come on Jan. 2 (but not for sure), and one of my other super good friends (also a BM) is definitely out of town on the 26th. Also on the 26th, another Bridesmaid or Best Man is only a maybe. and a few others friends are no/maybe for the 26th.
there is also a lot of people that my sister hasn’t heard back from, so its hard to tell. argghhh!
Post # 5
I know it’s a little out there but I was faced with a similar problem and I had to have a shower for my best friend on a Wednesday night! But everyone was able to make it. Lots of people take the week off between Christmas and New Years, and even if they have to work showers never last into the wee hours of the morning, so consider a weekday.
Post # 6
@JerseyGirlLaur: i guess that is an option too! i wish i thought of all this BEFORE the invitations went out!
Post # 7
i need help/advice, i need votes!