(Closed) when do I show up to my own shower?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I was already there.  Well except when I left to go and pick up my family because they couldn’t find the church, but I was back before the start of the shower.

Post # 4
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have experienced the opposite…all the bridal showers I have arrived to (on-time) had the bride present already. I realize this is a reception type setting, and I don’t think you have to be there early, but I think you should arrive on time with the other guests. 

Post # 5
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor, who is throwing my shower, has actually requested that I be there early, since I’m pretty much the only person who will know everyone.  It made perfect sense to me – I don’t want my guests to feel awkward while they’re waiting for me to show up. 

Post # 6
13012 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d talk to your bridal party and see what time they want you there.  For my sister’s, she showed up about 20 minutes after the rest of the guests so she made her “entrance” but didn’t make people sit around all day waiting for her.  But your Bridal Party might want you there early or on time, so make sure you’re all on the same page!

Post # 7
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree, ask the party hosts when you should arrive.

I haven’t had a shower yet, but at our engagement party we showed up first (with my parents), and greeted each guest as they arrived.

Post # 8
34 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

the shower i’m having is at my house lol, so unless i duck out i’m going to be there when the guests arrive. The showers I’ve been to most of them the bride was alrady there, I only went to one where the bride made an appearance, but it was mainly becasue she was late from getting her hair done. 😉

Post # 9
2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve been to one surprise shower where the bride showed up after the guests (obviously). All of the other showers the bride is there before any guests arrive to greet everyone.

Post # 10
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My shower was not a surprise, and I asked my hostesses when they preferred I arrive (it was hosted at one of their homes). They requested that we show up last, so that they could welcome everyone, get the food and seating all set, and generally have everything prepared for the “guests of honor.” 

I think it was very appropriate. Darling Husband and I made sure to socialize with every guest and thank them for being there, and I made a short speech when I presented the hostesses with their gifts to thank them (to acknowledge who was hosting). 

I think it would have felt a little strange saying “hello, thank you for coming” as people walked in — that’s the host’s place, and I wasn’t hosting.

Post # 11
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I greeted my shower guests as they arrived, and in my circle that has been the norm for non-surprise showers.  The one time a bride arrived 20 or so minutes after the stated start time, it was kind of awkward because the party can’t really start without the guest of honor and nobody wanted to touch the food or drinks until she arrived, so there was a lot of just standing around.

Post # 12
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think my mom wants my shower to be a suprise, and most of it probably will be, but I don’t see how the actual date can be a suprise since I live/work 2 hours away from where it will be and will need to request of work since I work sundays and only come home if i take a long weekend or whatnot, because it’s just too hard to go home for one day with my work schedule

Anywho, to answer your question, most of the showers I’ve been to the bride was already there.

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