Post # 1
Im sitting here working on our diy invites , and working on invite cards, and suddenly i realised i have no idea what is proper time frames!
Our wedding is Friday oct 4 2013, and i was thinking a month before the wedding for invites to be back? that way we have a week for late rsvps, and then 3 weeks prior to consult with ballroom and cake people for final numbers.
Is a month prior a good time line?
EDIT- and When do i mail them? was thinking that they need to be in the mail by Aug 2 2013? thats two months prior to the wedding. ( it is a friday, i wanna give everyone enough time)
Post # 3
I’ve always heard you should mail them out 6-8 wks before the wedding.. I have no idea about the RSVP thing. I know that I would love to have a month’s notice but I don’t know if that’s asking too much or not :/
Post # 4
Depends on when your venue wants head counts. Most sources I’ve seen say to allow yourself a 2-week buffer between the RSVP date and the date you have to deliver your final head counts so you have time to call any non-responders. They also say about a month between the sent date and RSVP date, which can be a little longer if you have a lot of out-of-town guests.
Ex: our wedding is 10/12, but our venue wants final head counts by 9/18 for some ungodly reason. We want RSVP’s by 8/31, and we have about 25% out-of-town guests so we will be sending our invites the last week of June/first week of July.
Post # 5
We had our RSVP date 1 month before our wedding. Our caterer and florist needed final numbers 2 weeks before, and we gave ourselves a 2 week bufferer to track down late RSVP’s and finalize seating charts. If you make the RSVP date more than 1 month before, people may not respond because they don’t know their schedules yet. And give people 1 month to reply. So send out invites about 2 months in advance (that’s what we did).
Although that’s common wedding ettiquette, i had MANY people ask me why we sent our invites out so late!! There’s a tough line between ettiquette and what non-wedding planning people think is ettiquette!
Post # 6
We set our RSVP date for 6 weeks before the wedding to account for the slowpokes and the inevitable nonresponsive people. That said, we’re sending our invites out 3 months prior to the wedding, leaving people with 6 weeks to decide whether or not they’re coming.