(Closed) When do RSVP need to be in by?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’ve always heard you should mail them out 6-8 wks before the wedding.. I have no idea about the RSVP thing. I know that I would love to have a month’s notice but I don’t know if that’s asking too much or not :/

Post # 4
3194 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Depends on when your venue wants head counts. Most sources I’ve seen say to allow yourself a 2-week buffer between the RSVP date and the date you have to deliver your final head counts so you have time to call any non-responders. They also say about a month between the sent date and RSVP date, which can be a little longer if you have a lot of out-of-town guests. 

Ex: our wedding is 10/12, but our venue wants final head counts by 9/18 for some ungodly reason. We want RSVP’s by 8/31, and we have about 25% out-of-town guests so we will be sending our invites the last week of June/first week of July. 

Post # 5
2052 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had our RSVP date 1 month before our wedding.  Our caterer and florist needed final numbers 2 weeks before, and we gave ourselves a 2 week bufferer to track down late RSVP’s and finalize seating charts.  If you make the RSVP date more than 1 month before, people may not respond because they don’t know their schedules yet.  And give people 1 month to reply. So send out invites about 2 months in advance (that’s what we did).

Although that’s common wedding ettiquette, i had MANY people ask me why we sent our invites out so late!!  There’s a tough line between ettiquette and what non-wedding planning people think is ettiquette!

Post # 6
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We set our RSVP date for 6 weeks before the wedding to account for the slowpokes and the inevitable nonresponsive people.  That said, we’re sending our invites out 3 months prior to the wedding, leaving people with 6 weeks to decide whether or not they’re coming. 

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