Post # 1
When should the bride and groom give their thank you speech?
I was the Maid/Matron of Honor at my sister’s wedding a couple of months ago and while I had prepared and practiced a speech, I was still really nervous all night. My speech came after the 2nd course at the reception – which meant that for the 1st two courses I couldn’t eat or drink, I was just so nervous! After I gave my speech I sighed relief and was able to enjoy the rest of the night (and food!) no problem.
Now I am getting married in April and I wanted to have the bride and groom speech right after the bridal party enters the reception, before the first meal is served and before the best man makes a toast. I think getting it over with early will really help me enjoy the night more – I would hate to look back at the reception and only remember the fear I had all night over a speech. Besides, we are paying a lot of $$ for the wedding and I want to be able to enjoy the food too!
So what do you Bees think? I’ve only ever been to wedding where the speech was at the end… Is having it 1st an etiquette no-no?
Post # 4
You dont have to give a speech if it makes you nervous. Most weddings Ive been to dont have them. There are enough people speaking already.
Post # 5
I’ve only seen the bride and groom give speeches at the rehearsal dinner…we’ll be doing the same.
Post # 6
I actually do want to give a speech to thank everyone for coming, it just makes me so nervous so I want to get it over with!
Post # 7
I love it when the bride and groom make a speech. I just feel like everyone is there for their day and wants to hear them.
I would make your speech while salad is being served?
Bride and groom during salad
Maid/Matron of Honor during soup course
Best Man during main course.
That way everyone is eating and isn’t waiting on speeches to eat. It’s hard to concentrate when you’re hungry!
Post # 8
We had a buffet dinner, so we opted to do all the speeches shortly after the last table got their food. That gave us and the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man time to eat, but most everyone else was still enjoying their food and didn’t have to just sit there waiting.
Our “speech” was completely on the fly. I didn’t prepare anything ahead of time. We just thanked our friends and family for supporting us over the years and for coming to celebrate our wedding. We kept it short and sweet, didn’t name anybody individually, and that was that.
Also, if you’re super nervous about it, just have Darling Husband talk instead of you. There’s no rule saying that you both have to talk during the speech. As long as you’re standing together, one person can speak for the both of you.