Post # 1
Have the receiving line?
I don’t want to do the isle by isle thing after the wedding or do it at the church. We have limited time with the limo and it was freakishly expensive – plus we will have photos to take and I don’t want that to be rushed.
We will be arriving to the reception after everyone has arrived, so would it be rude to do it after we’ve eaten while cake is being served or something? Go table to table….
Whats the order of everyones receptions, toast, slide show…all that jazz 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2007 - Ceremony at a cement and stained glass cathedral and reception at a boutique hotel ballroom
we didnt have the receiving line at all b/c we couldnt figure out where to put it.
you could toast around the tables instead. at one daytime wedding that i went to, the room had to be cleared by 3pm and the bride and groom had the receiving line at the end of the wedding. might not work for a nightime wedding though, since some may leave early.
Post # 4
We didn’t do a receiving line either. We did our ceremony & reception in the same place, so everyone was already mingling in the reception area before we got there — seemed too weird to ask them to come past a line after that, plus I just hate receiving lines. I always feel uncomfortable talking to the parents of the half of the couple I don’t know as well. And they look so blank and quizzical at me…
Anyway, we went table to table and made sure we greeted everyone. If you’re the ones "hosting" and it’s not a huge wedding, this works out pretty well. (If your parents are hosting, it’s a little more problematic since they’re supposed to see everyone too…)
An idea I had, but then dropped, was to make our entrance and ask the emcee to have everyone gather in two "lines" to hold up a canopy of silk — I saw this in a magazine somewhere — to represent the love of family and friends that shelters us — and then we were supposed to walk under that canopy and could take time to say hello to everyone as we walked past. But then I decided it was too complicated and weird.
Post # 5
Yeah see I hate receiving lines too , but I think that my FH’s mom expects it. And I’m not totally against it to where I won’t do it, but really it’s going to be 80% my family and friends because his family is from England and the family is really small…so poor FH – having to go through this "ANd meet so and so" over and over….which then means I have to remember all their names as well – and Lord knows I haven’t seen some of these people since I was little!
I wonder if I can send the parents around and skip it.
Post # 6
I say skip it. It’s an outdated tradtion that (from my experence) just makes everyone uncomfortable. And irritable (I have to wait in a line?!?!)
Just make a concerted effort to say hello to everyone in a more warm and casual fashion – whether it’s making the rounds to everyone’s table (I think during cake might be a little late, because people tend to "move" at that time. During dinner is usually best) or whatever you choose. Make it right for you.
Post # 7
We didn’t do a receiving line and I really wish we had. I had a small (80 people) wedding and there were still people I didn’t talk to. As far as when to do it, I just videotaped a wedding where the b & g stood near the cake-serving line and chatted with people as they went through. Sounds like that might work well for your logistics.