(Closed) When do you go to funerals?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If it’ll make it easier for your mam to have you there, then go if you can.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’ve always believed that funerals aren’t so much about the people who died as they are about the people that are left behind.  Obviously I will go to a funeral if I was close to the person who passed, but I will also go if someone close to me was close to the person.  Even if the person who passed was not in my life.  It’s important, I believe, to support your loved ones when they lose someone–so if your mom and dad are asking you to go, I would.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

If I were in your position, I think I would go.  If I didn’t, I may regret it in the future.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I am actually more likely to go to a funeral for someone i am not close to. i like to grieve privately and would not handle the casual banter found at a funeral well if i was close to the deceased, but understand going to funerals to support the family.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

To me, you don’t go to the wake/funeral for the dead person but you go for those who are grieving, to support them. 

It would be your mom that you’re supporting more than anyone else  in this context.  If she is that grief stricken, your support would probably be appreciated.  If you don’t have other siblings that can go, you might want to consider doing it for her. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would make every effort to attend.  These things are more important to the family.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I tend to only go to funerals if it is someone that I was personally close with or if a member of my family or a close friend was close with them. My friends grandfather died a few years ago and I attended his funereal. I didnt really know him that well but he was important to my friend so I went to support her. If your mom is this upset over his passing, then I personally think that you should go but I dont think it would be the worst thing in the world if you didn’t.

I find that most funerals are at inconvenient times but you cant really be like “Gee Uncle Fred, do you think you can hold off dying until next week when its more convenient for me?”. 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

It depends.. why is the time inconvient (i.e. are you working?) If I were working I would not go. Saying to my boss. If it was something else, I would go. Like others have said, it’s not about the deceased it’s about the people left behind.

 

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