Post # 1
So I was just wondering when you have an engagement party. Me and my bf plan on getting engaged soon (within 6 months), but we don’t plan on getting married for at least 3-4 years. We want to finish school and get some loans paid off first. So if we do get engaged soon, would we have an engagement party? Or is the wedding too far off? I guess it is a party for the engagement, not the wedding, so we could? I don’t know, any opinions?
p.s. I’ve been reading posts on the boards latley and must say that you ladies are SO helpful, nice, and understanding, unlike the ladies on theknot.com’s boards! I stay away from there!
Post # 3
From what I gather you can have it whenever you want. I’m not getting married for 2 years but my engagement party is this August. We decided to have a big engagement party to tide our friends and family over and give them something to remember during the wait.
Post # 4
I think it would be more fun to have it earlier, when the engagement is new. We had ours 9 months after we got engaged. It was an amazing party and we had fun celebrating with everyone, but I felt kind of silly b/c it was old news.
Post # 5
I read online that it should be within a few months of the engagement otherwise it’s not exactly celebrating that “event” but to each their own, I don’t think anyone cares too much about that. I got engaged in Feb and our engagement party is tomorrow because we wanted it to be outdoor BBQ and it’s just now nice enough outside for that.
Post # 6
I agree with early on. Dear Fiance threw a small one the night he proposed so that we could celebrate with all our friends. It was awesome to get to see them all immediately after!
Post # 7
Have it early and don’t forget to have some live entertainment to make it sparkle – even it is just a soloist – pianist for exmple!
Post # 8
I say if your going to wait a few years, have the party shortly after the engagement. There you can tell people your plans of waiting x amount of months/years.
I was engaged in July 2010 and we had our Engagement Party Nov. 2010 and we arent getting married until Decemeber of this year. =)
Everyones different, so do what you and your future Fiance want.
Post # 9
We got engaged Jan 1st of this year, and my friends threw us an engagement party in March, before we had even set the date. It was really fun because we hadn’t seen some of our friends since getting engaged, and my Fiance told the story of how he propsed. It was so fun! And its true the closer the party is to the acutal engagement the “fresher” the experiance is. AND you arent stressesing about the planning yet either so you can just sit back and enjoy!
Post # 10
Definitely have it early. We had ours within 2 and a half months of getting engaged, and it was perfect. Even with your long engagement, it’ll be nice to be able to bask in the newly-engaged glow with your family and friends.
Post # 11
Ok I am going to seem very silly. I have been engaged since Christmas and I haven’t told anyone except my two best friends (swore them to secrecy). I wanted our engagement party invites to make the announcement for us. We were planning to have our party the beginning of June but have pushed it back til the beginning of August in order to accomodate some friends that are going thru crisises. It is going to be very casual and a lot of fun. Eek I can’t wait!
Have it whenever you want it. We are!
Post # 12
We will be having ours the first couple of weeks after we get engaged
Post # 13
Sometime this summer. Not sure yet.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago
We got engaged last September and my parents are throwing us an engagement party this July. It seems a bit silly to wait so long, but they asked to throw it a few months ago. I’m guessing they waited until we could do it outside, in their amazing backyard, which is all due to my mother’s hard work gardening. Anyway, we’re using it as an opportunity for our extended families to meet and the bridal party to get to know everyone, too.
Post # 15
You can have the party right after the engagement, most typically one to three months after the engagement and/or closer to the engagement than the wedding date.