(Closed) When do you know you're ready for a baby, damnit?!

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 31
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9417 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly I never had baby fever and my Darling Husband would have been happy with or without children. I just felt like we were in a good place and the timing was right. I just couldn’t see it just being “us” for the rest of our lives.

That being said, even when I was walking the halls in the hospital during my induction, I saw a woman feeding her baby a bottle in the nursery and was like “WTF have we done?! We don’t know how to take care of a baby! This was a horrible idea!” hahaha. But of course everything worked out and she’s the greatest thing in my life.

Post # 32
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1200 posts
Bumble bee

When we saw the positive pregnancy test. 🙂

All kidding aside, we were planning to wait 3-4 more years to start trying, but we brought a little souvenir back from the honeymoon. I get little moments of anxiety and panic when I think about the magnitude of how our lives will change, but I’m not scared like I thought I would be. I think something about the pregnancy hormones can help you feel ready. Seeing the baby on the ultrasound, thinking about names, picturing our future family–somehow it all feels right even though it is years before we expected. 

YMMV, but I am now in the camp that there is never a “perfect” time to have a baby, and it’s about taking stock of your current situation. Ours is “good enough”–we have a house, solid jobs, family support nearby, no debt, and a desire to have children. We feel like we can do this. Sure, a few more years to save would have been nice, but you can’t always plan life. 

Post # 34
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1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I was hoping to wait at least a year, but it happened haha. 22-23 weeks now and still not  sure if I’m ready. Life is an adventure! As soon as I found out I was preggars, we started a baby fund and just got back from a babymoon. We have a 3 bedroom house, no debt, can live and save on his income alone and are doing ok. That helps a lot!

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