(Closed) when do you mail out save the date card?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

STD (save the dates) go out 6 months to a year before the wedding.

 The Invitations should be sent 8 weeks before your wedding! The wedding bee Wiki helped me a alot!

Post # 4
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It also depends on how many of your guests are coming from far away and might need to buy plane tickets. We sent out Save the Dates 1 year in advance because our wedding is in London but most guests are in the USA or Australia. That way they can start to look at their budgets and their vacation schedules and already know that our wedding is coming up. We are planning to send the invitations 5 months early (which is much earlier than usual) so that everyone will have the full details – including what hotels we blocked rooms in, which airlines are best etc – with plenty of time to book flights.

I know that if I were going to an out of town wedding I would want a decent amount of warning that it was coming up! But if everyone’s close by, then stick with the wiki-advice for sure!

Post # 5
6 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

My wedding is at the end of August…and i’m sending out my save the dates in 2 weeks! I feel like it is late….but we had a website right after we got engaged so I feel like people are informed that we were planning to get married in either July or August.


Post # 6
25 posts

6-8 month before wedding

Post # 7
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was lazy and didn’t finish mine until ~5 months before and everyone still appreciated them. Your invitations don’t usually go out until 2 months before, so there’s still a fair bit of time in between. Essentially, you want to give people who need to schedule time/off travel arrangements enough time to do so.

Post # 8
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Given the date of your wedding, 5 to 6 months is probably plenty.  Why?  Because it’s not prime vacation time.  If you were going to be competing with a holiday, or if your wedding was in July or August when people’s kids (and college students) are out of school and therefore likely to be making travel plans, you would want to get them the date before they made other plans.  In your case, because of the timing, it’s mostly an issue of airfare and hotel reservations.  Unless you live in a resort town that’s really busy in September (trying to think where that would be – it’s mostly off-season everywhere) or there’s a big convention in your town that weekend, making hotel reservations 2 – 3 months in advance (or even less) is probably fine.

If you do have some kind of competing event issue, you want to let people know when you send out the STD – as honestly, most of them will still wait until 2 – 3 months in advance to make reservations unless you warn them that all the rooms/plane tix will be gone by then.

Post # 9
11 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

We’re having a pseudo-destination wedding (in New Jersey, but everyone has to travel to get there) at the end of May and we sent out Save the Dates at the end of November (almost exactly 6 months ahead). 

Aside from the fact that everyone needs to travel for our wedding, I was adamant about sending them out — I couldn’t make it to a friend’s wedding last summer because I got the invite 6 weeks before the wedding, I was living in TX and the wedding was in MA.  Hmm, then again, maybe I was on the B-list??  We will never know… haha…  :o)

Post # 10
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

I would say you should send them out in the next month.  Flights are getting cheap for your Out of Town guests!

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