Post # 1
So, I love my daycare.
I think they take great care of my kid, and are very good at communicating with parents. The thing is, sometimes I’m not sure what to DO with this information.
They tend to call me anytime my son is “not himself.” Like, they’ll call and say “He has been fussy and not eating as well, and just feeling not himself. He doesn’t have a fever.” And while I’m glad they are keeping me up to date, I don’t know what to do with this information. Am I supposed to come get him? If I were home with him, and he had no fever and was just being cranky and still-eating-but-not-as-much-as-usual, to be honest, I wouldn’t worry about it too much if it was just one day. But I feel like a bad parent if I’m like “ok cool, sorry you have to deal with my cranky kid, see you at 5:30 pm like usual!” I’m happy to come get him if there’s something I can do for him that they can’t, or if he needs to see a doctor, but do other parents run over right away to pick up their kids from daycare every time the kid is “not (him/her)self?” For reference, DS is 5 months old.
If your kid is in daycare, what’s your threshold for when you pick him/her up early? (especially for little ones who are too young to articulate anything about what is wrong with them)
Post # 3
@Lozza: Having worked in a daycare I used to make these calls often. Really we would only call if we had a reason to be concerned. Usually there was an answer to why the child was acting this way. For example, he had a huge breakfast, woke up early and ate twice before coming to school, or mom sent something new thats why he isn’t eating. He’s really fussy because he didn’t sleep well that night.Or maybe the teacher thinks he’s starting to get sick. We always had the worry that if we didn’t call the parent would be angry. IE. “My child is clearly coming down with something, why didn’t you call me?!”
If you don’t like getting calls just tell your daycare and they will make a note that you have requested to only be called if the child needs to be picked up. It doesn’t make you a bad parent. Everyone is different. We had one mom call every day on her lunch break to check in. She wanted a full run down, how many diapers has she gone through, what time did she go down, did she do anything cute? We also had several moms on our do not call list.
Post # 4
I’m a similar parent as you in that if it isn’t contagious or if DS isn’t inconsolable, he’s going to school and I’ll pick him up at the usual time. Typically my daycare is more of an in-person information style in that I ask at lunch if I go to nurse him how he is doing and I ask again when I pick him up. They will tell me at those times if he isn’t himself or is unually fussy. For me, if DS is not acting himself, it has always been a sign of an ear infection (not true for all babies, just mine). My son is so happy and smiley that usually he has to be in a ton of pain before he starts acting different or doesn’t eat as well as usual so small signs leading up to it is something I try to pay a lot of attention to.
Post # 5
We don’t use daycare but I’d assume they operate under the “better safe than sorry” – so they’re just keeping you informed of his status so you can decide whether you want to pick him up early.
It’s better for them to keep you informed and let you make decisions on what’s not a big deal. Different parents have different thresholds for what’s acceptable for their child.
Just say “Okay well thanks for letting me know, call me back if he starts to run a fever.”
Post # 6
I worked at a daycare for 2 years awhile back at the begining of my college days…we had kids from 6 weeks to 4.5 years old and basically we called moms to see if the mom could tell us something we didn’t know.
For example if the child wasn’t eating…..maybe the mom could tell us “well, he hates yogurt so feed him something else”…or, “well he was at grandma’s and overate–that’s probably why”
But if the mom said “hmm…I have no clue, sorry about that” then we’d be like…”OK! Cool…well, just wanted to see if you knew why.bye”
I did have moms & dads who worked in the medical field or they were teachers or something and couldn’t be contacted throughout the day…so we’d either not call or we’d get a their voicemail…..& that was fine too.
We also had moms that would literally throw a fit if we didn’t call them to tell them every-thing….so your daycare probably is extra cautious ESPECIALLY since your baby is 5 months! They are playing safely.
Honestly: I’d say don’t call me unless he’s running a fever OR just let them go to voicemail and check the voicemail to determine whether or not it deserves for you to call back or not.