(Closed) When do you start using your married name?

posted 5 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have months to prepare for this but I’m curious what other bees have to say! 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)

I would like to be reffered to an Mrs. so and so as soon as I’m married, but won’t be using it until I change my license over to have proof of the name change. Most things you need an ID anyways- so I’d like to have one that matches what Im signing on paper or registering for/signing up.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

To me, the second we were married at the ceremony, I was Mrs. NewName. All the paperwork came later, but I introduced/referred to myself with my new name right away!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I plan on right after the wedding. But I’ve been using my FI’s last name at the vet for a year (we own a dog together, his name is first in the computer and if I use my last name they have trouble looking her up).

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@risingsun:  I’m planning to do the same!  In fact, I already asked my HR manager to order new business cards and a new name plate for my office so that they will be ready with my married name when I get back from our honeymoon.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m technically a Mrs, even though I haven’t done the wedding ceremony, just the legal portion. I think after you turn in the papers it’s legally your name and can go by it, but it’s more official after you change your SSC and driver’s license (which I did the next day). Then I changed the banks and I have 2/3 new bank cards, so it seems even more official. I have yet to change it at my jobs, but I think that will completely cement it. It was definitely weird at the DMV when I went to get my temporary license and they asked me my full legal name and I answered my new name for the first time, but I’ve started using it all the time and it’s been a week and a half since we got our official marriage license copies.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I started using my married name after I got my social security card and driver’s license changed.  Our honeymoon was booked in my maiden name plus all my credits cards, bank info, car, etc. I guess I didn’t want to start using it until it was really official.  Plus I got married toward the end of the school year so I didn’t start using my new name at work until the start of this school year, didn’t want to confuse the kids 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am very behind with this. We’ve now been married 3 1/2 months and I finally got my new social security card. I have an appointment at the DMV next week to get my new license. After I get that, I will change it at work, at the bank, everywhere. But for now, I am still going by my maiden name I guess.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am Canadian, where we aren’t so hung up on names and social status as the US is…

And living Common Law is very… well, uummm common

So I’ve been Mrs TTR “socially” (and otherwise) for years.

I only use my legal real name when the situation requires it…

The instant we marry, I’ll be Mrs TTR officially… can’t wait.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m an encore bride. But, for my 1st wedding, I used my married name for the first time on the night of the wedding, when I had to sign the paperwork to check my (now ex) husband into the emergency room, after he had been picked up from our honeymoon suite by the ambulance due to having chest pains. (Thankfully he was only having an anxiety attack, but it did put a damper on the wedding night activities, so to speak!)

So I’d say pretty much right after you get married, you get to use it 🙂 Even though I didn’t have it changed on my SS card or driver’s license, we had the marriage license to prove it was legal. It just takes a bit of time to get everything changed over. But man, I never imagined I’d be signing my new name for the first time in that particular situation!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I told my classes a few weeks ago. I ordered a badge already. I go back to work for 2 days after the school holidays then I have leave for 3 weeks.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hmm this one is interesting. I havent done the ceremony but have done the legal part so technically I am a Mrs. but I haven’t changed my name and I don’t really plan to. 

No one has called my by his last name yet, but I have wondered how to handle this socially, if people call me by his last name I probably wouldn’t correct them unless it was a legal situation like when I was admitted to the hospital a little while back. 

But if we met new friends together I wonder how they will adress me…

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I changed it on facebook right away but still awaiting our marriage certificate so still have same old work email address, license passport etc. I registered our puppy in our married name today. So it’s a bit of a process 🙂

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

So I’ve been married about 6 weeks and the only thing that my married name is on, is the new car we bought a few weeks ago (and Facebook :-)).  That’s it.  I thought I’d be in such a rush to change it all and I couldn’t wait to get a copy of our marriage license…but now it’s kind of at the bottom of my list of things to-do.  It’s kind of overwhelming when I think about how much I have to change.  Plus, my married last name is hyphenated and his last name is pronounced very differently in America than it is where he is from…so people tend to have a hard time with it.
I’m not really planning on changing it professionally at all…just to avoid confusion.

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