(Closed) When do you unfollow/delete sibling's exs on social media?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When do you delete siblings exs?

    Right after they broke up

    I wait for them to do it first

    After the sibling has started dating someone else

    Never/they get deleted within the next cleanse

    Other/comment

  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    bluebee19:  Idk I never give FB/social media this much thought. I don’t think I’ve ever removed someone unless we had a serious blow out (for example, the only one I can think of is someone who stole 5 figures worth of money from me.) I would probably keep her unless Brother-In-Law specifically asked that you remove her. 

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I would keep her, she has the option to delete you if she isn’t comfortable and honestly you’d be making a huge deal of it when it might not be to her. 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    bluebee19:  

    My DH and I are both still FB friends with his sister’s ex-boyfriend. He actually is engaged to someone now, and we’re both still friends with him online. The way I see it: they dated for over 2 years, we met him/hung out several times, and he experienced a lot of family events with us….several family weddings….our engagement…he would have been at our wedding too. I keep lots of scrapbooks and photo albums, and he’s even in them.

    SIL and the ex had a slightly rough breakup., but I genuinely wished the dude well when he moved on!! He seemed to treat SIL nicely when they were together, he was a pretty understanding guy when it came to our family’s drama, and I think she broke up with him to make a point and thought he’d come crawling back.

    Also, Mother-In-Law is still friends with him on FB and so are all of SIL’s friends. She has unfriended him, but I think that’s so she doesn’t have to see the constant engagement updates with the girl he dated less than 6 months. Eeek.

     

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

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    bluebee19:  I keep my facebook pretty small as well, but I only delete people if there is a reason to (in this situation, if my Brother-In-Law asked me to or if I felt like he would be the type of person that would want me to without having to ask). My Future Brother-In-Law is still friends with one of my fiance’s ex’s on facebook – I only know because she came up as a suggested friend because we had Future Brother-In-Law and another couple of FI’s friends in common. Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    The only time I even delete people is when I don’t like what their posts are saying and it’s usually acquatances I don’t care about anyway. I’m pretty sure I still have all my sisters exs as friends unless they deleted me. And I think my sister is still fb friends with my ex (he deleted me but not any of my friends or family) becUse she told me something ridiculous he posted once. I’d leave it alone. If she starts posting things you don’t like then I’d delete her. But until then who cares. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I’m still friends with my ex Brother-In-Law, and he’s been divorced from my sister for several years.  My parents and BFF are still friends with my ex (although I am not).  It is really not a big deal either way.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2008

    Ya, I don’t find social media as big of a deal as some of my family members who might get insulted over random things on fb. I’ve been in this position a few times with my older brother. I just do what he asks. I still have an ex gf on there and not another ex gf and one ex gf got rid of me herself. He’s with some new gf I’ve never met that I’m not friends with on fb. I don’t think it’s a big deal. My brother asked me to remove the certain ex and I did it then. 

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee

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    bluebee19:  

    When the relationship ceases to be positive, I move along both literally and figuratively. 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee

    I never delete people unless they (1) harrass me (2) harass other people – if they are annoying I hide them from my feed and if there are things I don’t want them to see I put them on the restricted list.

    Saves hurt feelings.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I have two older brothers, and I am friends with almost all of their exes on FB (the serious ones at least). I figure if they are uncomfortable seeing pictures of my brothers and their new gfs/wives/children on FB, then they can delete me themselves. 

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee

    I’ve only deleted one ex, my BIL’s, and it was because she broke up with him and it was kinda shitty. I think I waited a couple weeks and then went for it. The only other ex I deleted actually happened before they broke up, because he was constantly posting hideous selfies like him shirtless and zoomed in on his nipple ring. NO THANKS. The one other ex that’s on my friends list I kept, because I knew him for 10 years while they were in a relationship and he was like a brother to me. So moral of the story is, it’s a case by case basis for me whether I delete and when I do it. I don’t think it’s a great idea to do it immediately just in case they get back together!

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor

    My brother was engaged to a girl I had become very close with, and I was devastated when she broke it off with him- It wasn’t necessarily the fact that they broke up, but how she did it was very hurtful to me, I felt she put me in a bad position. I didn’t delete her on facebook because I cared about her and missed her friendship, but I did unfollow/hide her posts because it was very raw at the beginning and it was sad to see her posts going on as if nothing had changed. A year later we haven’t reconnected at all and I feel like it’s probably time to delete her, because there’s nothing to indicate we will ever be close again.

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