(Closed) When do you unfollow/delete sibling's exs on social media?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When do you delete siblings exs?

    Right after they broke up

    I wait for them to do it first

    After the sibling has started dating someone else

    Never/they get deleted within the next cleanse

    Other/comment

  • Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement

    I voted for the wrong one, I meant to say I usually let them do it. I’m generally never close enough to the new girlfriend/boyfriend that I even ever add them, though. If I didn’t like them I will do it right away.

    Post # 17
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    Blushing bee

    My brother is going through a divorce and his ex wife deleted me straight away. And blocked me from seeing her Instagram. The only reason I knew this was because Facebook suggested her as a friend! Personaly I didn’t even think of deleting her and I’ve never liked her. I had blocked her from my FB feed anyway so I never saw her. When I noticed that she’d deleted me I did think she was very petty. Facebook is so trivial 

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    This really depends on the ex and the breakup. For the most part, it is not something I give a ton of thought too. I am still FB friends with one of my (married) little brothers exes. I deleted my older brothers latest ex asap when they broke up. I am also FB friends with my last ex before Fiance. 

     

    Post # 19
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Brother’s ex isn’t on Facebook, but I still talk to her from time to time.

    In your case, if your Future Brother-In-Law and his ex have issues, they can block each other. It’s not your responsibility. If you’re friendly with the girl, keep her. If you have no interest in keeping contact, delete. Either way, it’s up to you: it’s not up to you to avoid awkwardness between Future Brother-In-Law and his ex.

    Post # 20
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I guess I’m in the minority…I delete liberally with break ups of any kind.  My own, close friends who break up with people, siblings, etc.  I am not Facebook friends with my brother in law’s crazy girlfriend for a reason…I do not like her and do not need to connect with her on social media.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Depends on the ex. When my sister got divorced, and her ex was an asshole about it, I deleted him. When my brother got essentially divorced (they never got legally married but for most of their relationship they couldn’t), I just unfollowed.

    Post # 22
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    Worker bee

    I only deleted my sister’s ex after she asked me to.  He would occasionally “like” a post of mine, which made her feel uncomfortable.  Otherwise, I wouldn’t have thought to delete him.  I even have exes of my own on social media.   

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Took me awhile to do it but I did it during the next cleanse. :p 

    I did however add an ex by accident a year ago – he immediately accepted and now I feel like a douche for thinking of deleting him. Haha. 

    Post # 25
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    Honey Beekeeper

    I voted for deleting if they don’t do it first. 

    Post # 26
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    windowlulu:  In your case, just delete him. I don’t understand why people are so reluctant to delete strangers / exes / people they never see, on Facebook.

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee

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    bluebee19:  I voted ‘Other’ because I’ve never actually added my brothers’ girlfriends.

    But I am in this situation with a male friend’s ex-girlfriend, and I’ve been wondering what to do about it… We weren’t close at all, and not at all similar personality-wise, but it just feels rude somehow. Both the friend and the ex-girlfriend have new partners.  To delete or not? 

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

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    weddingmaven:  if you must know… my sister said something was on his wall and I went to have a look — and… I actually have no freaking idea how it happened. Lol. Spastic reflex maybe. Either way, it’s done, he seemed very pleased that he gets to like posts on my wall again. 

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    aussiemum1248:  Well, you see, I see him, all the time. At my parents, at weddings, everywhere. Our parents are super old family friends and he’s still tight with my brother. Major, awkward. 

    (P.s. FYI I do a regular cleanse and, I don’t understand why people are so reluctant to delete people they don’t know or don’t see often either. :p) 

    Post # 29
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    windowlulu:  So? You accidentally friended him, “accidentally” delete him. What’s so hard?

    Plus, he’s your ex, he’ll understand why you don’t want to give him full details of your social life. 

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee

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    windowlulu:  This actually happened to me, with some random from school. He appeared in one of those ‘People you may know’ areas, and I went to click on his profile but accidentally clicked the ‘Add Friend’ link instead!

    I was honestly really embarrassed. We hardly knew each other and it was like 4 years after school had finished. Anyway, I cancelled the request before he could reply to it, but no doubt he got an automatic email about it… 

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