Post # 1
He wants to get married in the next year. Fine.
Um, wait a minute, you haven’t asked me yet?!? I try explaining to him how long it will take to plan a wedding and how booking places needs to be done. He won’t take it back. I thought he had the ring back in December and I waited, smiling, thinking he was just waiting for the perfect moment. He was talking to his mother frequently and told another guy “if you want her ring size just…”. Then Valentine’s Day came, the anniversary of our first date, nothing. I love him so much, but I might just kill him with comments like that. I convince myself I must be crazy (why else would I be inspecting the shape of his pockets every time he comes home.) So here I am, on wedding websites talking to myself. I swear the man loves to watch me squirm, dropping hints like that. 4 months ago he got the ring, I’m halfway sure of it (depending on the day). I forgot all about it then he says he wants to be married in a year. After explaining the planning process he smiles and says “I know”. Seriously? Just had to rant so that I can look at him without a crazy twinkle in my eye when he gets home…
Post # 3
Mine knows I want to get married next year most likely spring or early summer. We kind of have a timeline on the proposal too. I think he finally gets how long it is going to take for all the reservations and all. I dont really feel like gettting married in an alley way behind McDonalds lmao…
Post # 4
I’ve expressed to my SO tha I would like to get married in the late summer of 2013. I’ve also told him I need a year to plan a wedding. Well not so much plan as to get the vendors I want for the wedding. If he listens to me only time will tell.
Post # 5
I’ve told my SO more than a couple times that I want to get married May 2012. The last time he said “we’ll see” which is basically a “yes” in his language as he has no problem saying no but yes is like pulling teeth. Our timeline for proposal is Sept of this year… which leaves 9 months to plan a wedding. Not ideal for me, but whatever. Maybe he’ll get the hint and propose on the sooner end of the timeline!
Post # 6
I want to get married on either December 15, 2012 or December 15, 2013 which would be our fifth or sixth anniversary. I just don’t know how to express this to bf at the moment since I’m trying to not nag him.
Post # 7
i tossed out a date and he agreed so we’ll see if we can make it happen. i’m hoping for a sept. 2012 wedding, which is a great time for an outdoor wedding here in the bay area. he said he’d give me a year to plan so we’ll see what happens come september this year.
Post # 8
July 2012. He knows this and is on board. Just waiting…
Post # 9
i want to get married this summer. and if he had proposed when we first started talking about it and both agreed we wanted to get married, that would be happening! urgh!! this whole thing makes me mad because like you said,”what about what i want?” where is the compromise as a big decision like this should consist of in a relationship?? it’s all in their hands and we’re just supposed to wait like good little girls based on some old tratidition that doesn’t even have any place in our society anymore!! all the other relationship traditions have fallen by the wayside so why are we still hanging on to this one? especially when i see how much it’s hurting all these women who are waiting? it’s bull***t!!
Post # 10
ok… you guys are going to think im crazy but im planning on the end of july this year! i’ve told him this and he agrees but wont budge on what his plans are, no matter how many time i try to explain to him all the things that need to be done. thank god we are getting will be getting married in his parents back yard and im a planning freak so everything is ready to go as soon as i get the ring!
Post # 11
Ok. So if you would have asked me this question 6 months ago I would have said June 2011. But seeing as this is now March and we are not engaged that WILL NOT be happening. Especially since he was out of work for nearly three months. And my SO was also on board then he didn’t propose by new years and I then knew he wasn’t fully understanding.
Now I will say Spring/Summer 2012. I would do it earlier but I really want a Spring/Summer wedding so I practically had to push my “ideal” date back a whole year. Uggghhh!!! Hate this…. But for me the earliest I can do in 2012 the better. This will be a Destination Wedding for us so I need time to plan. Especially time to invite our guests.
@Impatiently waiting: I feel your pain!!!!
Post # 12
I told my SO that I would like to get married in August of next year and I really would like a year to plan. He agrees and says he would propose to me tomorrow if he could. But he just doesn’t think the time is right and he said it would be this summer some time. I’ve quit asking him because I just don’t want to be disappointed and have him get angry at me.
Post # 13
Is tomorrow a valid answer? 😛
Post # 14
Spring or Summer 2012. It WAS Sept. 2011, but we have something important that is going to pop up around our wedding date, so we changed it to next Spring or Summer. (still not engaged, but hey, nothing wrong with mutal plans.LOL)
Post # 15
@Isilme: I think so! I would love a last minute destination wedding…. it’s my Boyfriend or Best Friend and his family that wants the big wedding.
Post # 16
We had discussed and agreed to a summer 2011 proposal and April 2012 wedding. A reasonable amount of time as we want a tropical Destination Wedding where planning is pretty darn easy. but now I have no idea what is going on, or even if we will get married.Check out threads started by me if you want an explanation to that