- Miss Raindrop
- 12 years ago
My birthday is coming up in the next few days. 2 years ago my SO said we would be engaged by this birthday. (We’ve been dating for over 3.5) I’ve reminded him of this, and eventually found that he doesn’t remember he said it. He’s younger than I am, by more than 5 years, and I know he wants to get certain things “in order” before we get married. We’ve been through a LOT together, including his family not approving of our relationship, living in different cities, and now my decision to temporarily move a few states away in a couple weeks.
I’m going away for the weekend with my best friend, and we’ll be coming back on my bday. I told my SO a long time ago, don’t try proposing to me at 11:59 pm the day b4 my bday. Things I know he has going on this weekend lead me to believe there will not be any swooping in on our weekend to propose.
People around us who used to tell me to not sweat stuff, because he’s young are now starting to say things like, “I don’t know how you do it. I never would have waited that long for a guy.” And these are people that really like him, but are concerned for me.
I don’t want to give an ultimatum, so I think what I’ll be doing is really concentrating on myself when I go a few states away. And not to play games, but not to worry about talking every day, like we do. Let him do the pursuing, the missing.
I just know I’ll be kinda sad for the next couple weeks if we don’t get engaged. I feel I’m almost crossing the line between waiting and letting him be comfortable with where we’re at/ the woman who appears desperate. When do you start losing hope?
Any advice from the hive?