(Closed) When do/did you consider yourself "waiting"?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@valardohaeris:  I went from girlfriend to “waiting girlfriend” when the topic of marriage went from something in general I had said I wanted (“I know one day I want to be married…”) to something that we specifically said WE wanted (“I want to marry you.”)

Now we talk about it a lot and with excitement, and it’s no longer this vague idea. It’s a real thing, it’s the next step in our relationship, and thus I be’s a waitin’ bee. πŸ˜‰

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

I’d say I’ve been waiting for at least a year and I’m estimating 4-5 more for a proposal. I also work in weddings which makes the waiting so much more fucking painful. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@valardohaeris:  I kinda don’t like the majority definition of “waiting”, but I guess I’m considered kind of in between the stage of “waiting” and engaged. My SO and I agree that we’re emotionally engaged, but we’re waiting until I have a ring and he does a “formal” proposal to tell our friends/family. We’ve designed the ring, but he won’t tell me when he picks it up. He said he’ll have it paid off by December 1st, but he might have done it before that without telling me. So I guess I just kind of transitioned into this stage as it got closer to December. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

We had discussions our future before, but considered myself ‘waiting’ once he asked what rings I liked and asked me to leave him to it πŸ™‚

He’s very traditional that way and wants the proposal to be on his terms. He’s hinted it will be before July. If that hadn’t happened, I wouldn’t have considered myself ‘waiting’, I knew it would happen some time but not that he was actively on his way to doing it.

Since then I’ve been a bit addicted to weddingbee, etsy and pinterest…oops!!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

I considered myself waiting after we had seriously talk about getting engaged. So, I waited 8 months!

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

In hindsight, I guess I started “waiting” once we started seriously looking for my engagement ring, but I didn’t think of myself as a “waiting bee” until we made the purchase, he hid the ring, and started to plan his proposal.

 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

@valardohaeris:  

 

 

 

I guess I needed to first realize that he was The One and this was It.

 

That happened several months after we started dating.

 

The next step was that he began dropping marriage hints into our conversations– that also started several months after we began dating.

 

I think I went into unofficial waiting mode about 10 months after we met. That was the point in time where I was feeling more and more sure that I could see us getting married at some point. And I felt like, with all the hints he was dropping, that he was thinking the same thing.

 

We started talking specifically about marriage after about 15 months of dating  and he formally proposed a few months after that. We were married on our two year anniversary. 

 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

We have been together almost 6 years. We have discussed marriage and both plan on getting married at some point in the future. I consider myself waiting because as of a few months ago, I am ready to get enagaged and I want to get engaged. He knows this and is not quite ready yet so essentially I am waiting for him to get ready and propose.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

@valardohaeris:  We started dating when i was 15 and he was 17 and at the age of 19 for me it became real that i wanted to marry him. So it would be 3 years in our realtionship. Of course i was only 19 and in college and he was 21 and was also in college. So we decided to put goals…before getting engaged and married. For me was finish school and find a statble job and travel on my own! for him was finish college go to law school and live in a different state. He moved away for law school for three years to kansas. We were still together then…and it was the toughest three years for both of us….we would travel back and forth but it was difficult. But just two years ago we both had finish what we wanted to do before getting engaged…now finally after 10 years of dating! it will be happening soon. So i would say i have been waiting for a while. But seriously waiting for 2 years

Post # 26
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Helper bee

I knew we were going to get engaged eventually, but I now consider myself waiting. A few things changed to make me feel like a true “waiting bee”.

1. He got a wonderful job, and as finances were the thing holding us back from engagement before, I knew it meant great things!

2. We actually went ring shopping together, and decided on a setting we liked enough to purchase later on.

3. He began saving a certain amount per month in order to get my dream ring. 

Post # 27
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Newbee

We have been dating for about 3 years. I don’t expect a proposal for about a year and a half, so I was hesitant to call myself waiting at this point, but recently admitted to myself that I am. We have been discussing marriage as something that might happen someday since about a year into our relationship. Recently we have started having more serious conversations and making concrete plans for our future, including when we would like to move in together, get engaged, get married, buy a home and start a family. We are also both finished school now, and have decent jobs so we are saving money up towards these goals. Knowing that we are definitely on the same page in wanting to get married and that we both have a similar timeline in mind is what made me consider myself officially waiting.

 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I considered myself to be waiting once my Fiance and I had “the talk” and had discussed a general wedding timeline. 

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

I think I first considered myself to be officially waiting when we first started talking more about getting married. Once he told his mom he was going to marry me it was a big waiting period for me. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

After 6 weeks of dating when we decided what month we wanted to get married in πŸ™‚ He proposed on our 6 month anniversary.

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@valardohaeris:  First of all, I have to say that I LOVE your user name. I’m eagerly awaiting the 4th season of GoT.  πŸ™‚

I considered myself as waiting after about 2 years together. We had attended one of his best friend’s wedding just after having moved 1800 miles away together, and following the wedding we all went out to a bar to keep the celebration going. Before this night, he was pretty anti-marriage as his parents had a terrible divorce (and still aren’t fond of each other to this very day). After making a terrible attempt at a Texas two-step (we’re from New Jersey LOL), we sat down laughing, and he told me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and wanted me to be his wife. 

Following this conversation I was SURE a proposal was right around the corner. NOT! Guy time is much different than girl time haha. It was around that time that I started lurking on the Waiting board on the Bee. It was this same time that I started (very) impatiently waiting lol. 

2 years after his friend’s wedding, we were about to leave on our first real vacation together to Playa del Carmen, Mexico, when I got a text from my best friend saying her SO had just proprosed. At this point, they had only been together for about 6-7 months. Let’s just say when my husband got home from work that afternoon I was already pretty drunk as I had downed a bottle of wine to drown the extreme jealousy and misery I was feeling hahaha. After I told him the news, he immediately understood. He told me that night that I wouldn’t have to wait much longer.

6 months later in May 2012 we FINALLY got engaged. And trust me, I wasn’t the only one saying finally, pretty much all of our friends and family expressed this notion to us…  πŸ˜‰

After all that, I will say that it was totally worth the wait!  πŸ™‚

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