(Closed) When do/did you consider yourself "waiting"?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 33
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1099 posts
Bumble bee

After he told me that we’d be engaged by March 2014!

Without that certainty, I think “waiting” would have killed me slowly.

Post # 35
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1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@valardohaeris:  That’s the first time I’ve ever read a “waiting” response that really made sense.  πŸ™‚

Post # 37
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1682 posts
Bumble bee

@valardohaeris:  It’s pretty rough and as stupid as it sounds, it’s definitely contributing to my depression.

Post # 39
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3518 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@valardohaeris:  From the time he started asking me questions about rings (what’s your size, what do you like) until he proposed. (About 2-3 months.)

Post # 41
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1682 posts
Bumble bee

@valardohaeris:  It’s just so hard to work with these gorgeous, happy, wealthy engaged women and help them create the wedding of their dreams, when I’m just sitting there sad and hoping for a proposal that will likely never happen. You would think that I’d be able to live vicariously through them and be excited but I see them get everything that I want and it tears me apart. 

Post # 42
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1099 posts
Bumble bee

@valardohaeris:  I don’t regret it at all. I guess we have a specific reason though; I will probably have to move to another city next year and making that decision together about where to move is more comfortable for us if we are engaged. I have no idea how and when it will happen, so there’s still an element of surprise, yet I feel comfort knowing that the “wait” will be over by then at the latest. Total surprise is not something that’s important to us, so different things work for different people! Fingers crossed you’ll be engaged by July πŸ™‚

Post # 43
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

@veryberry13:  I never really left, I’m just cutting back on the posting and the checking haha <3 it’s nice to be missed a little though xx

Post # 44
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1626 posts
Bumble bee

@valardohaeris:  Well…I have a good attitude NOW!  LOL.  Honestly, I did NOT have a good attitude for a long time about it.  I was depressed, angry, resentful, bitter just ugh! Yell

I can see that I wasted a good 6 months of my life worrying about things that were out of my control.  And I learned to turn it around…hopefully my story can help other waiting bees from missing out on moments of their life like I did. 

Post # 45
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@valardohaeris:  I remember clearly the day I realized that my now FH was the one.  I also remember telling his mom later that summer that I was done, he was it for me.  That was 7 years ago.  I considered myself waiting from about 18 months/2 years on.  We were 21/22 when we started dating, my 30th birthday was our engagement.  I fully admit I wasn’t the most patient waiting bee but there were a lot of factors that contributed to me having to wait – including my decision to go back to school

Post # 46
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Newbee

We’re coming up on our 1 year anniversary (of dating) in about two weeks, and there’re a few years to go I would bet before we’ll be engaged, because I’m hoping to teach in Japan for a year or two after I graduate next winter, and a few other factors. But only two or three weeks after he met I was visiting my family for the holidays and he called me and said that he didn’t know if it was weird or creepy or whatever to say this so early, but he was pretty sure I was the woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with, and was that okay? And I felt the same way, so of course I said it was.

Nearly a year later, he’s brought up marriage a number of times, and even brought up engagement rings once. We talk about our future kids like they’re a given fact. He asks me all the time if I’m serious that I’ll really marry him, just to hear me say yes. 

Now, I know engagement is not happening this year, and probably not next year, because I’m not financially independent and we’re just not ready. But I DO know that this is the man I’m going to spend the rest of my life with, and so I consider myself waiting–though patiently.*

 

*That is, I call myself patient because I know neither of us are ready, but I’m clearly impatient enough to join WeddingBee and read Offbeat Bride and buy Martha Stewart Weddings and keep wedding planning notes. So, I’m patient enough where my man’s concerned–just not with the calendar.

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