(Closed) When do/did you consider yourself "waiting"?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 47
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

When we both agreed we wanted to get married, but he hadn’t asked yet.

Post # 48
862 posts
Busy bee

I had two waiting stages. The first one started after we had the sit down real-deal timeline plan and what needed to happen along the way (DH was previously completly turned off by and wedding chat thanks crazy ex). In that time I found out that we HAD to have a house before he would propose, we both wanted a year engagement, were planning on June 2012 (ish). In this time we did do a little ring shopping together, and I did A LOT without him (that he knew about and was quite fine with)

The second stage started when we did buy the house (June 2011). I was NOT moving into that house without a ring on my finger and he knew it. This is when the “OMG it could be any day now” kind of waiting began. We did more ring shopping. We recieved the house September 1st (2011) and he proposed August 28th (2011).

Married October 2012, we only missed the June timeline by my choice, I didn’t feel like it was enough time to enjoy our engagement, and I wanted a fall wedding.

Post # 49
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I consider myself waiting even though I’m not super sure if I really am or not. I get “waiting feelings”, and do not have a ring. SO and I have been together for 7 years, and have agreed to plan for a wedding/elopement (not sure yet) for next fall. I kind of consider ourselves engaged in that respect (since we are actually working on planning right now), but am waiting for the “official proposal” and ring, so I can publicly call him my Fiance without any weird looks. 

So, I may not be waiting in the same way as other bees are, but I do consider myself waiting now 😛

Post # 50
2417 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I considered myself waiting the day that SO told me that he wanted me to know that he definitely wanted me to be his wife someday. Prior to that he was vocally anti-marriage/weddings cause we already live together (just a piece of paper, why ruin a good thing, etc)

He knows that I want to be married before I have kids and I know that he wants to start a family in the next 3-5 years.  So I have a kind of timeline. 

We have discussed rings and he told me once that if he ever bought an engagement ring he would be terrified to buy the ‘wrong one’. I told him to use a ring pop or one of the ones from the vending machines at Walmart (bonus points for a Pokemon ring!) and then we can go shopping for my grown up ring together. 

Post # 51
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I know the exact time I was hit the bug! It was July of this year 🙂 We had just come back from our 2 year anniversary trip in the Carribean and I just felt sooooo in love and ready. Since then we’ve spoken about it more than we ever have! He gave me a timeline (next year-ish) So ive been offically waiting for about 4 months, but I feel like it has been forever!

Post # 52
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I considered myself “waiting” May 2013 when SO and I had a serious conversation about taking the next step (we had talked a lot about it casually over the years, but that conversation was when he told me that he’s thinking about it, it’ll just take some time).  Then I considered myself officially offiically waiting when I saw in the mail that he bought the ring in November!  

Post # 53
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

A year into dating he brought up marriage on his own and how he sees that with me and how he wanted me to know that he cared for me a lot and that wanted to marry me when the time was right. Since that convo, my mind got into “waiting mode” as I knew within the first week of getting to know him that there was something so different and special about him. At 6 months, I would’ve said yes to a proposal. Anyways, he ended up proposing during the same month we had that convo, one year later. So I was technically waiting a year and we were dating 2 years by the time we got engaged, which I know for many waiting bees, is not a “long” time. 

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