- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2017
One of my DH’s friends back in High School has started coming around lately. My DH hasn’t spoken to him in 10 years, and he found my DH over the internet.
But my problem is, most weeks he’s coming around 4-5 a week. I guess I’m just feeling very frustrated. This guy has no job, lives with his parents, is almost 40, has no teeth, and is very socially awkward. I know my DH feels bad for him, which is why he lets him come around. He won’t talk to me, he just wants to talk to my DH. Which is fine, it’s just awkward.
Another thing, my DH and I were off doing a few things last Sunday, so we were home in the AM and gone all afternoon. Apparently this friend we will call “Jim” said that he went to our house Sun and we weren’t there, so he said he drove around for an hour, then went back to our house, and we still weren’t there, so he said he went home for a little bit, then came back to our house AGAIN and we weren’t there. That bothers me!
The next day Jim comes over again, and my DH is not home, I just got home from work, and he’s already in my yard! I was really upset. I don’t like that!!
I was really irritated and I said that my DH isn’t home, it will be about 30 min. He said he was going to wait for him. I then told him nicely that we have plans to go somewhere when he gets home. I’m not comfortable in my own home anymore.
When my DH got home, we were supposed to leave, but he chatted with Jim for an hour. Jim is just very socially awkward, and I know he doesn’t have many friends, but I just don’t know why this has to be a 4-5 day a week thing. I barely see my DH as it is, and it’s starting to feel uncomfortable at home when Jim is around. He’s not mean to me whatsoever, just wants to talk to my DH.
I’m now starting to not enjoy much, and I have anxiety now. When I leave for work, sometimes I’m not even excited to go home (which is NOT like me) because most of the time Jim is already there. Sometimes I just want to talk to my DH for 5 min when we get home from work, and have an uninterrupted evening. The nights when it’s just my DH and I, I have anxiety because I think Jim is going to show up. And he ususally does.
Jim doesn’t know when to leave, sometimes he doesn’t show up at night until we are having dinner, and he says to us, Oh, sorry, I will leave, and my DH says oh no, your fine! That also bothers me! I’m just becoming very hostile and I don’t like that!