Post # 47
I am only 6 weeks, but surprisingly my husband has been wonderful so far. He knows I haven’t been feeling well and he has picked up more responsibility around the house. I also feel like he is more tender with me. He knows I am having a rough time right now, though. He also (kind of surprisingly) has been reading his “dads pregnant too” and getting involved in the pregnancy and telling me some things to expect (that I already knew, but its adorable). He was never one to get overly involved in stuff that he feels like is more my territory than his until this.
Although, he still says, “your baby,” to me…and I am like, “uhm, this is your baby too!” He admitted that it didn’t feel like it yet, because he isn’t carrying it. Thats fine, he just needs to help me get through this pregnancy and bond with our baby on his own time, I have no doubt he will be head over heels once they meet outside my belly.
Post # 48
@NinjaDuck: I’m so jealous your husband is reading books on his own! Mine keeps telling me he’ll read some but he never does! lol
Post # 49
It dawned on my husband as soon as he saw the pregnancy test! He started treating me like I was so fragile, lol. He was so excited and was talking about my pregnancy 24-7. I knew he’d be excited, but I had no idea how excited. I had a really bad case of severe morning sickness for the first two months and was in out and of the ER so he kind of HAD to be aware of what was going on, I definitely needed a lot of assistance at the time. Haha!
Post # 50
@Evie19: I mean, I bought it for him…and told him I got him a book written for the dads and that it was about pregnancy, not newborns so he shouldn’t wait until the baby is here…lol.
I was surprised that he has looked at it as much as he had! Completely caught me off gaurd in a good way.
Post # 51
@NinjaDuck: Still, it’s nice he read it. 🙂
Post # 52
I was wondering if my husband would “get it” when we saw the baby and heartbeat on the ultrasound at 8 weeks. He was super sweet and almost apologetic on the ride home, saying that he was so happy that everything was okay but fully admitted that it hadn’t sunk in that it was a real baby yet. He asked me if I was upset at him.
Thank goodness for threads like this because I wasn’t upset at all, and told him that I know (from several very respected online sources from my wedding website haha) that sometimes the guys don’t feel that it’s real up until the baby is actually born, but that as long as he supports me and takes care of me and pleasantly deals with my shit, we’re good!
Post # 53
@Evie19: Oh! Absolutely! I am so pleasantly surprised. Just don’t want to give him too much credit 😉
@kate02121: Thats so sweet that he was apologetic on the ride home and didn’t want you to be upset. I think its ok for everyone to connect on their own time, and while I know I will connect more with the baby while pregnant than he does, I also know that there will be a deeper connection for me once baby is born, and can understand that he might need the to truly connect. I am with you, kindly put up with me while I go through the pregnancy and help take care of me and I am happy.
Post # 54
I just took a look at this thread. It’s been fun to hear more oblivious husband/partner stories. We finally heard the heartbeat two weeks ago. Now at 14 weeks, I’ve got a definite bump especially after meals. So my husband has been much more aware….
…however this came with a price I was not expecting…
Now he is the freaking FOOD POLICE! OMG I cannot eat anything without him going “Should you be eating that??/ Are you sure that’s not going to make my baby’s arms fall off?/I read on http://www.Imanannoyingdaddy.com that you shouldn’t eat that…”
Post # 55
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: My husband is sort of the food police, too. I’ve been wanting a turkey sandwich really bad, but he laid on the guilty trip and I’ve just been avoiding it. I decided I’m not telling him any of the things I’m not supposed to do/eat if they aren’t a big deal. We split a softserve milkshake last week and he had no idea that I should probably avoid that. I don’t think a milkshake is going to change anything.
Post # 56
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17 and MrsBG: mine too, total food police!!! Which has been really hard as terrible MS keeps from wanting to eat anything remotely healthy. I asked him to back off until the MS subsides, which he promised to do – but sometimes forgets haha.
As for when he ‘got it’, he was more excited than I was when we got the BFP (he comes from a big family and was eager to get started!), so I think he got it really early. But I also think our dating scan at 7w4d helped. I walked out of there grumbling that it didn’t even look like a baby and he was like ‘you’re crazy, that was totally a baby!!!”. He was fascinated through the whole thing, with the biggest grin on his face! We have our 12wk scan tomo, hopefully it’s even better!