(Closed) When does it start to feel real?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
3731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m less than 3 months out too, and I have fleeting “holy crap” moments, but for the most part I haven’t had any freak out moments. It doesn’t feel real to me either yet. 

Post # 3
3276 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve been married for three months and it doesn’t feel real, lol. I never really had that moment, the day just came, it was awesome, but never really soaked in. It didn’t even feel real the day of, just like a big party with my family and friends. 

Post # 4
35 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s feeling super real now, a little over a month out. I’m not freaking out or super stressed like I thought I’d be though. That will change soon I’m sure though lol. Now that I can actually envision the big day and I know how close it is, it’s real!

Post # 5
7 posts

I’m going to have to agree with MrsN14.

There is so much stress/drama/BS that surrounds planning a wedding that sometimes that magical feeling just won’t come until the last minute, or not at all.


Planning my second wedding (Oct. 2014) I’m running into major BS and all I can say is enjoy the DAY!! Know that you have that one special day to party and celebrate your wedding. That magical feeling should come, even if happens at the last minute.

Don’t beat yourself up over not feeling “bridal” 24/7. I know I don’t.


Best of luck!!

Post # 6
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius

pinkrose23: I’m getting married November 14th and it doesn’t feel real for me yet either, I sometimes sit there and think ‘by Christmas I’ll be married’ but doesn’t feel real yet!  

Post # 7
788 posts
Busy bee

It was 2 weeks before the wedding before it felt real. The day of my hair and make up trial and final dress fitting. It want a freak out moment just a “huh, this is actually happening. I’m standing here in my wedding dress.” And then life went back to crazy and busy. Now I have those “huh, I’m someone’s wife” moments instead. 

Post # 8
1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I eloped, so my “holy crap, I’m getting married” moment came about 1 hour before I left for the court house. 

FWIW, I had started planning a big wedding and gave up because of the stress.

Post # 9
9098 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

For me, it didn’t feel real unti I was actually saying my vows.

Post # 10
6526 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

pinkrose23:  as the day gets closer it starts to really hit you. I was the same way. The day came abd I was so excited and giddy and then I had a panic attack when I arrived at the church, my mom helped calm me down. 

You will be fine!!!! 🙂

Post # 11
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

For me it was when the MUA was done and I looked at myself in the mirror that it truly sunk in “I’m getting married!” 

It didn’t really hit me until one day like weeks later Darling Husband was like “this is Soon2ElopeBee, my wife” and I was like oh wow! 

Soooooooo don’t worry, your moment will come, who knows when and where or how but…it’ll hit you all of a sudden!

Post # 12
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are 39 days to the wedding and it still doesn’t feel real. Last fitting is happening this Wednesday for my dress…maybe then? I am beyond excited and can’t wait but it’s all just going by.

Post # 13
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Even the month before the wedding, I knew it was happening, but it didn’t feel like it was ever going to happen. It felt like it was indefinitely in the future.  The day of is so hectic that I was so busy with what we needed to do, and what needed to be where when, etc. Then, all of a sudden, my bridesmaids were gone, and I was standing outside the church doors with my dad and waiting for the music to change. I just remember thinking, “Holy sh#t, this is actually happening?” The rest of the day felt very surreal. I’ve been married 4 weeks, and it still feels surreal in some ways!

Post # 14
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium

I’m getting married in 37 days and haven’t had an OMG moment yet. Mine is out of the country so maybe when I’m actually packing up my stuff or getting on the plane it will sink in more. 

Post # 15
3725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

pinkrose23:  Tomorrow is my 7 day out mark and it’s getting real. I’m getting sustained feelings of excitement. Eeek! You will too.

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