Post # 1
About six months ago I posted this lovely number http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/exes-and-possible-stalking#axzz2jiSNT6na
So since I’ve blocked this girl (who is now married to my ex) she has gone and got a new Pinterest profile and started pinning E-Cards and making comments that I know can only be about me, like really bad stuff. She’s pinning all of my stuff again. I’ve blocked her…..again. There is not much I can do with the laws but my god, when will she stop?!? Either I’m that awesome or she is really screwed up. (That was for laughs, I’m not that awesome, I’m really a huge nerd 🙂 )
She sat outside for 2 plus hours while I cut my mums down on Saturday, watching and glaring at me and slamming her front door……it’s odd.
They got married a few months ago and I figured she’d cool off now that she had him wrapped around her finger but if anything it’s weirder now. However, she hasn’t yelled at me in a while.
Cops say there is nothing they can do and since I work within the legal/court system I know that I could not get an Ex Parte granted, no grounds, she is not technically threatening me or hurting me in any way.
I would not dream of behaving this way…….. I don’t think i’m even scared anymore….now it just seems pathetic and laughable.
Post # 3
She sounds like a PSYCHO!
I hope she leaves you alone soon!
Post # 4
@MrsFarm0619: I was being stalked on Facebook. For this and many other reasos, I deleted my account. Problems stopped, as this person had no access to me anymore.
Maybe just get off pintrest?
Post # 5
wow! She is crazy!! I have no advice, but I hope she stops soon!
Post # 6
I think instead of deleting my account (because I feel like I should I be able to enjoy Pinterest and not worry about her) I’m going to change the name to my grandmothers maiden name, she shouldn’t be able to locate me then (I’d hope!) it is freaking weird thou….jeez
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
What would deleting her account do? She’s watching her in her own yard. Does the ex know about it?
Post # 8
Oh he knows, he feeds off this crap, he may not know the extent of her Pinterest nonsense but he knows she wants to make me miserable. What I don’t get is why draw my attention to her if she’s so insecure….I think she thinks I want him back…..um no thanks. people are strange
Post # 9
I was just thinking that deleting the account is one sure fire way to ensure that you are not easy to find.
Also…My restraining order is for 500 feet at all times….I would try to go to court and see if you can get a better RO.
You can’t just go to the police or call the cops and complain…been there, done that…You have to file a complaint with the court, meet with a counselor about it appointed through the court, and then get a court date. You and this person will need to stand before a judge and THEN she will be read her rights and made to explain WHY she is stalking you. Then, you can have an ironclad restraining order.
Post # 10
PS I have no idea what this means:
I work within the legal/court system I know that I could not get an Ex Parte granted,
Are you telling me that there is NOTHING that can be done for you because you work in the court system?????? Yikes!! I just don’t know what this means or how this can be right how awful.
Post # 12
@veryberry13: she knows she can’t get one because she works in the legal system and there haven’t been any threats yet.
Also, the woman lives across the street from her. A restraining order wouldn’t do much good in this situation.
OP, I am sorry you are going through this. I hope she gets bored and loses interest soon. Do you have a good security system, mace on your keyring, a personal weapon, ect?
Post # 14
I would seriously consider moving. How weird is it to live across the street from your ex and his wife?!!
I would seriously consider it.
Post # 15
I would take it somewhat seriously because stalkers can be dangerous.
If you want to use Pinterest, I suggest you delete that account entirely, and start a brand new one with no obvious ties to you or your old account.
And I’d be on the alert for any signs that she may attempt to physically harm you. If so, you may need to move out of the area.
I’ve had a stalker before and after struggling with many ways to get him to leave me alone, and the police and others not really helping much at all, I finally hit on one strategy that worked: BORE THEM AWAY. Be as uninteresting as you could possibly be to her. Don’t show her anger, fear, happiness, mocking, ANYTHING, just be as dull as you possibly can be. Keep your information private as much as possible. Have your friends and family be aware that she is stalking you and be on the lookout for her getting into your business (this is to protect yourself), but don’t let her know that that’s the case. Don’t have anyone confront her or anything (as you want to be discouragingly dull).
My stalker is unforunately still out and about but has moved onto other targets (and now I’m sure there were others before me as well). Sadly there was nothing the system could do to protect me or stop him from that behavior but I didn’t get hurt and now it’s been years and I feel pretty confident that he’s forgotten all about me (at least to the point where he’s no longer motivated enough to try to find me again). I am a more private person now though, just in general with my information, so it would be a little harder for him, or for anyone, to stalk me, and I like the peace that that provides.
Post # 16
@MissTatas Yes, we have a security system, obnoxiously loud and loveable dog, and I have personal protection on me at all times (with my clients I can never be too careful). I am honestly praying that she will get bored too. I thought getting married would occupy her for a bit and it did but now she’s back at it. Maybe when she gets pregnant she’ll knock it off and focus on her stuff.
@Earlybride Incredibly weird…….he was supposed to have sold when we split, lied, didn’t sell, I moved on with my life and now here we are……being neighbors….ugh, small town, ugh again.
@ joya_aspera I do try to not even make facial expressions for her to see, because before I would be almost in tears when she would yell things like “whore, bitch, slut, c***” at me but I try (and my god it’s hard) to not even flinch when she’s being goofy and I def do not respond or comment on any of her social media, that would be asking for it. I can be dull, it comes naturally for me! lol
I’m just shocked that someone would even waste their time to behave this way.
I know a lot of advice from people is to just move, but it is not that easy right now, for a variety of reasons, however, I know I can’t let my guard down, I don’t have to obsess over it but I know I should be aware and alert. I have a good bunch here at work that I have with me from the time I get here until I’m in my car, thank goodness!
Thx for the advice and prayers that she will lose interest and move on with her life!