(Closed) When everyone wants something different

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Er, no. They might be able to have a say in the guest list, but that is it. The 15K is supposed to be a gift and a gift should not come with stipulations. If your Fiance and you agree on the same things then that is what you should choose.

Post # 3
9160 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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Sukii:  I disagree. The money isn’t a gift, the money is to host the wedding. The OP’s parents are hosting the event so they get a say in how the money is spent. But alas I don’t think this is the OP’s problem. I think her problem is that both sides, her Fiance and her parents, want to focus the money on different things and the OP feels like she is in the middle.

OP I would work out how much money you and your Fiance are able to committ to the wedding and funnel that towards the things that are important to your Fiance and use your parents money for the things that are important to them and the extras that no one but you seems to care about. If your Fiance still won’t compromise tell him that you are going to refuse the offer from your parents and you two will just have to fund the wedding. I bet he soon compromises when he thinks he will be left footing the whole bill.

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