(Closed) When guys hit on you….

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I don’t mind dancing with a guy if he’s being harmless and not all bump and grind dry humping me.  But when they talk to me I’m a biatch and just look at them and say GO AWAY.  Like saying GO HOME to a dog, sternly. LOL

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I always pretend to scratch my face for a few seconds with my ring hand and let them clock that, then if it’s flirting too far I just act disinterested and say “back off buster, I have a husband”…

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

If they’re being nice, I mention my Fiance and I’ll continue talking. I won’t flirt, but I won’t be a bitch either just because someone thinks I’m attractive. However if they keep on trying to get my number, trying to buy me a drink, trying to whatever, then I’ll say something along the lines of, “I’m happily engaged, please go flirt with someone else.”

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I usually entertain the idea especially if he and his crew are cute and have the non-creeeper vibe. We’ll talk, if he’s up to buying drinks, we/ I will let him. I do not spit out the “I’m married” line so if he’s getting too pushy my line is always “sorry, but I am not interested” and if his touch is agressive or out of line I will sternly say “do not touch me again”

I do pretty well in bars and clubs- I get hit on and enjoy the flattery. I’m kind and open for socualizing until it gets pushy.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Man, I am surprised at some of these responses.  If it is clear they are trying to flirt, I usually just smile nicely and say “sorry, taken!” and flash my rings.   If they are just talking to me and might be trying to flirt, I slip in a reference to my husband, again with a smile.  Not every guy is a predator that needs to be viciously shot down – as long as they are being polite, I can be polite in return.

Of course, if a guy tries to hit on me in a disrepectful manner, they will get anything from a death glare to getting cussed the fuck out, depending on the severity of their BS approach. 

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Since I’ve been married, I’ve actually only had one person flirt with me, and it was via a FB chat. I know that the gentleman did not see anything wrong with what he did, because he is happily married and has a family.  He simply views this as his personality and even desribed himself as being a “huge flirt” and said his wife knows that he is.

However, I believe that it was inappropriate, and I needed to make clear to him that I was uncomfortable with the idea of saying anything to someone that I would not also say in front of my husband or that person’s spouse. I also told DH about the conversation as well. Although I was flattered, I also knew that I needed to make certain that I nipped the situation in the bud immediately.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@Mimoza:  The palm to the face is just that, awkwardly placing your palm to their face, and if necessary dragging it slowly down their face. This is reserved only for those men who have decided to ignore your wish to be rid of them and are being rude and harassing you. It’s very effective, however.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am polite, and will usually engage them in conversation, but only because I really like talking to all kinds of different people. I always make it clear I am happily in a relationship, and would never accept a drink or any sort of physical interaction. No matter their physical appearance.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

if they are friendly, i will talk to them, but the minute i realize they are hitting on me i just politely tell them i’m engaged. i would never “bump and grind” with another man or accept drinks from him- i’m not in college anymore! i find it more fun when you are out with friends and a guy comes up and starts hitting on you to start talking about wedding planning with your friends 🙂 i always tell my fiance whenever i get hit on too. 

however, if the guy is being a pig and making certain comments to me, i can be a total bitch. they just better hope my fiance isn’t nearby, because he’s a huge and protective and wouldn’t think twice about hitting someone!

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t engage or entertain at all and I actually get really impatient when being hit on.  My response to “Hi, I’m Ryan” is “okay” and turning around.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I mention my husband. That usually does the trick.

Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t really put myself in situations like that anymore, because I just don’t have the time or energy for bars. But honestly, when I’m at the gym and a guy looks at me, and tries to get my attention, I just don’t give it. I’m not one for flirting, and it makes me really uncomfortable!

If for whatever reason I do go to the bar for a birthday girls night or something, we always stick together and let any guy know we’re in relationships right away. It’s like the first thing out of our mouths if we know we’re getting hit on.

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