(Closed) When guys hit on you….

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@Mimoza:  I know I am sorry! I did not read all the responses first >_<

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@Mimoza:  well I hate it when if I ask a guy a question innocently, he automatically assumes because I spoke to him I want him. So I try not to do that. Im a smart girl so I can figure out with a little bit of conversation if a guy is hitting on me or not.

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

It depends on what exactly the other guy is doing…if it’s a pick up line or whatnot, I usually say something to the effect of “Thanks, but I’m not interested.”  “I’m engaged.”  “No thanks.”  “I’m seeing someone.”  Etc.

One time I was in a bar discussing a possible job with a guy.  This other really creepy McCreepster came up to me and whispered in my ear, “Do you need to be saved?  You look really bored.”  I was MORTIFIED.  I told him very sternly.  “No!”  LOL!  I really hope I didn’t look bored…I don’t think I did.  That was just his excuse for talking to me I think.

But the best pick-up line I’ve ever gotten was in France.  This French guy walked up to me on the street and said, “I am the man that is loving you.”  I literally laughed in his face!  LOL!  I kind of feel bad looking back on it, but I couldn’t help it.  It was just so funny, and it’s a great inside joke with my friend who was also with me at the time.

But man!  Those French guys cannot take a hint.  Sometimes the only way to get them to leave you alone is to feign ignorance.  I would just pretend that I couldn’t understand anything they were saying, even if they spoke English.  I’d just say, “Je ne comprends pas.”  (Which is “I don’t understand” in French).  But I’d say it over and over again with a really bad accent.  Worked like a charm.  ๐Ÿ˜‰

As for what I consider cheating…flirting isn’t necessarily cheating but I also don’t condone it.  My fiance wouldn’t like it if I flirted with someone else and vice versa.  So, that’s just not something I consider acceptable.  If your friend’s boyfriend is fine with it, then that’s for them to decide.  It’s their relationship.  But I think it’s inviting trouble.

Post # 55
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mimoza:  There’s nothing wrong with making small talk with a guy that may or may not be interested in you, even if you’re not interested in them. I find it annoying when they’re over the top and you want them to stop but they’re relentless. THen I usually say something really bitchy or just turn my back on them.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m really bad at telling when people are just being friendly vs. flirting, so I try to be polite and engage in small talk.  I just mention my SO in conversation casually so that they get the hint.  Typically if I’m at a bar or something without my SO it’s because I’m out with the girls, and some of them are single.  Being nice while making it clear I’m not interested allows me to play wing women a bit, maybe introduce that guy or his friends to my single friends if they seem nice.

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am mean… It’s a result of NYC upbringing- don’t talk to me, don’t look at me, leave me alone… I know that some people are “just being nice” outside of NYC but it’s still hard not to say “why are you talking to me” ha! 

I had a conversation with an ex once who was kind of a dirt bag, he said that if I was approached on the street I should never give the excuse “I’m taken” because to him, that doesn’t exactly specify that you’re not interested… It just means that you have a partner and to him that meant “wiggle room”. 

Post # 60
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Helper bee

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@Mimoza:  i used to be like that when i was younger and in the early stages of my relationship. every guy who tried to approach me got the death stare lol i hated being hit on and having to explain repeatedly that im unavailable.

now that im getting older and 5 yrs into my relationship ill take whatever form of flattery (tastefully done) that i can get. treasure your beauty/youth while you can ladies. you wont get this kindof attention when you’re 70. speaking in general, this isnt specifically towards you.

Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I flash my rings and talk about my husband.  Not rude, not leading anyone on. Done.

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