When he calls me his "girlfriend"…

posted 8 months ago in Waiting
Post # 76
6660 posts
Bee Keeper

queensav :  I feel like maybe if i just hold on until things settle a bit more then everything will be ok

Bee–the world is going to continue moving forward, you are both going to continue being busy–it doesn’t stop. How long are you willing to hold on? He could order a ring online in five minutes if he wanted to order a ring. A man who wants to get married will propose. A man who wants to get married doesn’t refuse to discuss and plan a future with you. At least set a deadline for yourself. You deserve more than this. 

Post # 77
337 posts
Helper bee

Reading through the comments by Bees to your latest update, OP, this is so empowering.

Take their wisdom, strength and move on. It doesn’t matter how good the “good times” are, no-one should ever let you feel so devastasted and down. 

Post # 79
6169 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

queensav :  that’s good, Bee. I hope you will also take the time between now and October to start planning your life without him. You won’t be able to make the break if you can’t event think about it, let alone make a plan. Even if you don’t need or use that plan, you should start visioning a life that can fulfill and excite you without him in it, otherwise, you run the risk of looking up and realizing it’s October 2020 and you are in the same place (which a lot of other posters have done) but sadder and angrier (and even less of an option for a potential new partner).

Post # 80
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

queensav :  start making plans to leave. He’s a dick at this point.

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