Post # 1
How do you accept it, without seeming rude?
Over Christmas, my wonderful grandfather has offered to help pay for my wedding. I think it is his way of showing his support for the marriage. He said just let him know what he can pay for, but now I find myself wondering how to ask him without seeming rude. Finances are not a problem for him, so it’s not the price I am worried about, nor is he, I know. But now that I could use his help, particularly for the honeymoon, I don’t know how to go about mentioning it again. I mean, how do you politely say, “I would like your help”
Or maybe we just don’t take his help? Which I also find rude because he really does want to help with part of it. I just feel like I’m in an odd spot. Advice?
Post # 3
If he offered to help, it’s because he wants to help. Let him!
Post # 4
Maybe write him a handwritten thank you note and send it – and in the note (among other nice things like how excited you are for your big day and to celebrate with him, or how special he is to you), tell him how much you appreciate the offer, that you’d be thinking about it, and if he’d like to help you could really use the help in (x) area. That way the ball would be in his court to call or get in touch with you to see how he can contribute. I don’t know, just an idea. I also struggle with this stuff 🙂
Post # 5
@prettysouls: I really like that idea! I feel like it is more personal too.
I was maybe thinking taking him to lunch also? What do you bees think of that? I just worry it is too much for him to think about because he is starting radiation therapy for his recently diagnosed cancer. Granted, he’s such a tough man, but still. That’s a lot to think of.