(Closed) When I did NOT Shut-It-Up

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@fingerscrossed:   That’s awesome!  It sounds as though you two have a healthy and loving relationship.

Communication is hard, especially between opposite sexes.  But always remember he loves you as much as you love him, even if his way of showing it may be quite different from your expectations.

The Shut It Up Pact is great when you know for sure the man wants the same thing you do, but it can be a detriment if taken too far, or in the wrong way.  It’s never meant to be a guessing game. 

I love your story and that you posted, because I hope this encourages other women to open up and start communicating with their SO.  Either way things go, you deserve to know where you stand. 

I’m so happy for you!!  🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@fingerscrossed:  🙂 That’s awesome! I believe that it’s good to keep quiet in moderation. If it’s really something weighing on your mind, I believe you need to talk about it. Good for you! I’m glad things are getting more on track.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@fingerscrossed:  Your last post + 10,000,000. As we all know, I cannot shut up. BUT, now that I have calmed down tremendously, we can talk about things in a calm and productive manner. I still need lots of reassurance, but we’re actually talking about things and figuring them out TOGETHER which is very different than me crying and being all upset and being a crappy communicator. Shutting it up isn’t always the best way to go, but for some (like me) it’s a great tool to helping you learn how to communicate.

I love that you posted this!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@fingerscrossed:  way to go! You talked with your partner about both of your feelings and expectations in a way that did not impart blame, spread hurt further, marginalize, criticize, or rush each other. 🙂 I think its great that you shared this on the waiting thread, because sometimes it’s easy to do the opposite of this and I think this is a greta example!

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