(Closed) When Is A Relationship "Official?"

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We agreed we were exclusive after a month of dates and weekend outings. I’d wanted to make it official sooner but Fiance wanted to wait and feel me out, haha.

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @MrsPanda99:  British English vs North American English

Snogged = Kissed

Shagged = Sex

 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We had the conversation. Darling Husband and I dated, he didnt kiss for me about 2 weeks (because APPARENTLY the first time he tried to kiss me I had turned away), we didnt have the ‘are we official’ conversation till about a month into dating.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@classical_wolf:  I was in the same boat. I knew right away I wanted to be exclusive and it took him a bit longer to actually say it. He wasn’t seeing anyone else but he didn’t say the word “boyfriend” for awhile. It’s funny that I say “awhile” when we were engaged after 3 months and living together after like a month and a half. So awhile is like 2 days, lol.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsPanda99:  He said I could call him my boyfriend the night we made it official. Hell, I wanted to make it official right after the first date.

Post # 22
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Newbee

Fiance and i spent about a month hanging out pretty much every day, had one “real date”, and had been kissing (and a few other things), but were still “dating”. Our reason was that he was graduating and i was a freshman, and we were both soooooo insistant that we didnt want anything serious at the time, even though i was falling head over heels. After about a month, we didnt even so much have a convo as he stammered out “can i call you my girlfriend?” like we were in middle school, and that was that.

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

When you talk about it, and not a second before!

Post # 24
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Helper bee

For us, we went on a few dates but it was OFFICIAL when we said I love you to each other.  I said it first, and he said it back, picked me up and kissed me. We’ve been together since 2005. 😀

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Incidentally, snogging is the sort of kissing that makes onlookers mutter “Couldn’t they have got a room first?”!

As for knowing when you are in a relationship, it’s a mutually agreed thing. My Darling Husband and I had been friends for years. When we got together both of us knew, from the first kiss, that this was not going to be a temporary arrangement. But we didn’t say so. Instead, we happily hung out together for a few weeks before agreeing that this was an exclusive relationship and we were happy to be known as a couple.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Me and Fiance dated (hanging out, going on dates, and other stuff) for over 10 months before we were official we both were exclusive to each other but we didnt want to label it both of us having had horrible relationships in the past. The day he went in for heart surgery was the day we both realized we loved eachother and that was the day we decided to make it “facebook official” lmao.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

@megz06:  i always joked that it wasn’t official until it was on Facebook (even though my SO has never had one haha) But we actually had to have the “its official now” talk. It was about a month and a half into dating.

I also sent him a screen shot of when i did put it on Facebook hehe saying “NOW its official” lol

Post # 28
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Facebook official LOL!  Seriously though, I think once you have a discussion about being mutually exclusive.

Post # 29
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Newbee

OH and this totally reminded me of this convo with my cousin (were the same age)

me: so whats this i hear you have a new girlfriend?
cuz: no…
me: let me rephrase that – whats this i hear you have what your mom would call a girlfriend?
cuz: well… uh… yea… well… were just hanging out!!! 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee

@beachbride1216:  

+1 I think it’s official when you decide to see each other exclusively.

Darling Husband referred to me as his girlfriend several weeks after we’d been dating. Then a week or two after that he asked if we could be exclusive. That’s when I stopped wondering where this was going and started to realize that this was It. 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My story is kind of unique in that Fiance and I dated all through junior high (well, if you want to call holding hands dating!) and though high school and even were engaged in college for a while.

When we got back together this past January (after being apart for 7 years) we went on a couple of dates and he had asked if he could call me his girlfriend.  I had broken up with my other Fiance before my current Fiance and I got back together, so he knew I wanted to take things slow, but made it very clear that he wasn’t and didn’t want to date anyone else.

To answer the question, I think a relationship is official with both people talk about it and decide it is Smile  For some people it can be after a few dates, for others, it can take months.

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