Post # 62
I think it’s official when there is a DTR (“define the relationship”) talk and exclusivity is established. I’ve seen WAY too many gals burned by just assuming, so I make sure it’s super clear.
With Fiance, we started dating and I asked him a couple of weeks in if we were exclusive, and he said yes. Shortly after that, he asked me to be his girlfriend.
Post # 63
yeah high school relationships. i was young and i guess since we were “bffs” it went without saying that we were together, to me, he was older. but lots of high school drama. lol glad it didnt work out. so i thought it was really sweet when Darling Husband actually asked me:) he was tech. my first “real” boyfriend cuz of it.
Post # 64
I’m in camp that you have to have a define the relationship talk. After we hung out pretty much every chance we got for a few weeks, I finally asked him what we were because I really was looking for someone to settle down with. Thankfully, he felt the same way and well, the rest is history.
Post # 65
Agree with many others – it’s not official until you talk about it and both agree to be exclusive.
The hubs and I had a very unusual set up and none of my friends understood it. We dated for 6 months, but were not exclusive, but only exclusively dated each other. In other words, we were in college and could make out with someone else, just not go on a date with them the next day.
Post # 66
I’m not sure how to answer as my SO and I were “seeing each other” exclusivley (a.k.a. “Friends with Benifits”) for 3 months before he actually asked me to be his girlfriend.. so we were together before actually being together.. It’s confusing!