Post # 1
Hate posting this twice, but the Parties board seems dead…
My favorite girls are wanting to throw a shower for me sometime in July, because my Maid/Matron of Honor is pregnant and will be in her third trimester by August and won’t be able to fly.
My wedding isn’t until April of next year, and when I try to think of any reasons why an early shower wouldn’t work, I just can’t think of any, aside from having to accelerate the save-the-dates in order to have a guest list.
Has anyone had a shower really early in your planning?
Post # 3
I’m having mine at least 1 month early.
Post # 4
Wait…. THIS July? I think that’s too early.
Post # 5
That seems pretty darn early. I wouldn’t think you’d have a shower until early next year.
Post # 6
We are having mine in June for THIS July. I think 1-2 months is the norm. I’m going to agree with PP that THIS July is far to early! It’d be more like an engagement party, rather than a shower.
Post # 7
Shower in July 2011 and wedding in April 2012? I think that’s too early. I guess there isn’t really any “reason” not to have it early, but I think some people will find it strange.
Post # 8
I had mine 2 1/2 months before since that was the only time my sister could make it but I think anything more than 3-4 months is a little early. That being said it is your wedding and you can do that if you want to. If I was invited to a shower months and months early I would still go and wouldn’t mind.
Post # 9
I’m having mine 4 months early, but 8 months seems a bit extreme.
Post # 10
I am having mine at the end of this month, and that’s 3 months early – I thought mine was too early!
I would try and do something in January or February of next year..
Post # 11
I think it depends on the circumstances. My sister/MOH is pregnant and won’t be able to travel till after the baby is born in Oct. So we are having my shower towards the end of June and I’m not getting married till November. It might be early but no one seems to be bothered by it. It could be that 8 months is a little early, maybe ask close friends/bridal party and see what they think?
Post # 12
I went to a baby shower once in early April for a baby that was born the end of August (so 5 months before baby was born). It seemed early but that was the only time that worked logistically. We were all in school and were about to go out on rotations and become scattered all over, so we all understood why it was planned then.
I think if people know the reasons for the timing of the shower it is fine. However, since you Maid/Matron of Honor will be in her third trimester in August, she should have the baby by the end of the year. By the end of March, baby should be at least 3 months old (or older!) and could travel with mom (MOH) to your shower. Plus, end of March would be perfect time for a end of April wedding.
Post # 13
I think if you arent get married till next year, its a bit too early to do have your shower now. Showers are usually done just before the wedding
Post # 14
I know. Yep, July 2011 for a wedding in April 2012. 8 months…eek.
I’m afraid people will find it strange too, but it will be a small group, so maybe they will explain why this is being done logistically. It will be in my old hometown, and it’s really important that my Maid/Matron of Honor, who’s in another state, be there. She’s actually due in October. She doesn’t want to fly for awhile after the baby is born, and I’d never pressure her to.
The girls seem SO excited to do it this summer. I tend to be a people pleaser and I hate throwing a wrench into anything, but I’ll see if I can at least get some honest feelers from them.
Post # 15
I’ve never heard of having a shower that early before. I can understand 4 months early, but 8 is a bit too much. I’m having mine this August which is 2 months before the wedding.
Post # 16
@techie: another thing to think about, is whether you plan on using gifts after the shower or waiting until the wedding. I’m not using them until after (which is etiquette, I believe), so that’d be a super long time to not get to use them!
Couldn’t you have it just a couple weeks before hand? I think that close would be far better than this far out.