Post # 1
I know that alot of you are not me and therefore can’t make decisions for me. But, I would like to have some input about what to do here. I am in one of the most sticky situations of my life.
I have Crohn’s disease. In may of last year, I was officially diagnosed after suffering for 6 months prior. I recently took a job as a teacher at a charter school but have been experiencing some major health issues since.
The work week is difficult. I have a 10 hour work week with 1 planning period. I wake up at 5:45 and drive the 30 hour commute to work. School dismisses at 4:30 and teachers may leave around 5. I come home and I plan/grade homework for about 80 kids for 2 hours and then I go to bed.All in all, it is a 13 hour “work” day. I make 41,000.
I have been incredibly stressed and I don’t know what else to do. I saw my doctor today who has now noticed a lump in my stomach. He says I am at risk of losing my colon in May (my wedding month) if I keep it up. I have chronic pain each morning that comes from not being able to go number two. I take suppositories and those are not able to do what they are supposed to because for 6 months I have been number twoing at later times. This appointment has really scared me.
I feel so amazing when I leave work. I feel like “What a great, rewarding day.” But I am worn out and scared to death of the damage I am doing to my body. I have no idea how to approach this and was wondering if I could get support on how to exit gracefully. I hate this situation because I have been making such great relationships with teachers and students but truth is I value my body and well, my colon more. Any Crohn’s bee want to weigh in?
*My Crohn’s is really severe because it went undiagnosed for about 6 months.
*I have been working here for 5 weeks.
*I knew my stomach hurt but just recently went to the doctor and found out I have another knot.
Post # 3
kikilo: Are you asking for advice about how to quit your job? Are you able to not work right now?
Post # 4
I don’t have what you have but I did have to abandon my career because of fibromyalgia. it took me too long to realize how important my health was and the stress I put on my bodywasn’t worth it. I think if I had cut back sooner this might not have turned into such a long term saga. See where I’m going here? I would cut back and balance your life with a greater investment in your health before you find yourself in a situation where you don’t feel like you even have any options. good luck! I know this must be very hard for you
Post # 5
Can you manage without your income? Does your doctor state if you will get better? If you can’t work because of illness I would think your employer would understand.
My assistant has Crohns and generally works full-time without too much issue but every few months she has a flare up and is out for a day or two. Usually not more than a day.
Post # 7
This is easy for me to say, and I certainly understand why you are feeling conflicted at the thought of leaving a job that you otherwise would want to keep, were it not for your health issues. However, there are other jobs out there, but you only have one life.
Consistently being on the go for 13 hours a day when you have Crohn’s disease is probably not a wise idea. I have a friend who battled this disease for many years, before succumbing to its effects a little more than a year ago while in her 40s.
You need to do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Have you discussed this with your doctor? Sometimes, it helps to have someone in a position of knowlege and authority provide the direction and “permission” we think we need to care for ourselves, because we somehow feel “weak” if we don’t try hard enough. However, you won’t be helping anyone if you don’t take care of yourself.
Post # 8
colld88: I am sorry you went through the same decision and with a serious condition.
I was desperate to find a job and didn’t think much about it. I needed the cash because I was in a new city after being unemployed for a bit and wanted to find something soon.
Post # 9
Because I have never taught before, this is even more stressful (you can teach without a teaching degree/license in charter schools) and I tried to bring up that this was not a good fit last week to ease into saying hey I’m getting some cramps/sharp pains. But my mentor ignored me and generalized about how it’s tough for anyone. I decided to wait and see after she didn’t let me finish.
Post # 10
I think you should talk to your union to discuss options/where you stand
Post # 11
Stress can makes Chrons sooo much worse. will you be filing disability when you quit? you should just go to your superior and explain the situation, just say that mentally you can handle the stress but physically it is really effecting your health, and you need to make that your top priority. Chrons has such a range in severity for different people, and it sounds like yours is getting worse and worse so you really need to be active about taking care of yourself. Good luck…
Post # 12
Do you know of any Chrons support groups near you? Or maybe a Chrons support forum? Talking about this with others who can relate could be very therapeutic for you.
Post # 13
I am so sorry you are going through this. Do whatever you need to do for your health. 13 hours does sound like a long work day for even healthy people. Could you reduce the amount of hours? Work life balance sounds important for you.
Getting an MD with both traditional and holistic qualifications would be a good thing. I would read both the mayo clinic advice and Dr Andrew Weils advice online for starters. Dr Weil mentions acupuncture, energy work, etc.
Post # 14
kikilo: message me! Fellow crohnie here for 13 years with a few other autpiine diseases as well.. Trust me I feel and KNOW your Pain, especially with planning a wedding.
message me and I can help… Trust me, diet change is HUGE( even though my GI laughs at it every time , stupid gastroenterologist )
Are you on metrotrexate, imuran, prednisone, humira or remica de? I can give you some info on all!
Post # 15
i don’t have any specific advice, but would FMLA be an option?