Post # 1
My Fiance and I are planning on a longer engagement (Two years right now, we could possible move it closer). Our families are not in the best financial situations, as both our fathers have become disabled. We will be paying for the wedding ourselves, but our families feel badly about not being able to help. Much of my family lives across the country, and I don’t really get to see them.
I am wondering when it would be appropriate to begin registering. I want my family and his family to feel like they are helping us. Maybe giving them more time where they can help with a few little things over the planned two years would be more reasonable for them? I don’t want them to feel like we are demanding that they begin right away, but they have both expressed regret at not being able to offer things. We don’t plan on registering anywhere super expensive (probably Bed, Bath and Beyond; Walmart; Target)
I also thought that if any of our family members (his and/or mine) could use the registry for other holidays/birthdays too. I mean, silverware is something we’ll need regardless of what holiday/event it’s given to us.
What do you ladies think? How early did you register? Do you think that this could give our parents a chance to feel that they are helping us get started? Advice?
Post # 3
We registered about a year before the wedding, and yes, our families did “shop” our registry for holiday gifts. I don’t think it is ever too early to start, just stick with basics for the beginning, since a lot of things could be discontinued before your wedding.
Post # 4
We registered over a year before the wedding because we were visiting a town with a GIANT BB&B and had the time to go through the store w/ the scanner. We’ve been able to update a few things online, but really haven’t made any changes since then. No one has bought anything and the registry won’t be publically known until our STD’s go out next month. I think it will start being used this summer at my bridal shower, but it has been a relief to know that’s out of the way.
I say go when you have time to do it. People will look when they want to buy you gifts, not to judge you beforehand.
Post # 5
The only reason not to register now is that stores will stop selling what you pick, and you’ll have to pick new things. If you register now, just remember to check periodically to make sure things haven’t becom unavailable.
Post # 6
Fiance and I registered a couple weekends ago, and our wedding isn’t until September 2013 – we had the time and we wanted to figure out what it was that we wanted for our apartment. We’re expecting that things will go out of stock, but at least we have something to go off of and we can update it online.
Post # 7
I would hesitate to register until 6 months to a year out. Perhaps you could put things like smaller kitchen utensils (spatulas, measuring cups, stuff like taht) on the registry a year out, and then wait for the more decorative items (silver, china, etc) so you don’t have to deal with discontinued items.
Post # 8
Really, what’s the harm in doing it now?
My fiance and I just registered yesterday, 6 months prior to our wedding. Our first stop was Bed Bath & Beyond and they keep your registry up for 24 months. It allows for you to add or cancel items and for people to buy presents not only for showers or the wedding itself, but maybe for birthdays or holidays.